[Celebrating World Falun Dafa Day] Love Melts Hatred
(Minghui.org) On a day in the Fall of 2016, my husband stood in front of a portrait of Master Li Hongzhi, the founder of Falun Dafa. With a deep bow, he said, “Master, please forgive me. I have committed a crime in badmouthing you and Dafa. I also beat and cursed at Dafa practitioners.”
It was quite a big change for him. Ten years ago, he slandered Dafa and beat me at will, but Dafa's compassion has dissolved everything!
Since I was young, I had a stomach disease, neck disc pain, rhinitis, and a frozen shoulder. I longed for a caring husband. I met a scholar and married him. Unfortunately, he was strongly opinionated and had a bad temper.
I started practicing Falun Dafa in December 1996. From the practice, I understood the meaning of life and why humans suffer. After reading half of Zhuan Falun, my stomach, neck, and shoulder were all cured. Since then, I have never had any problems nor needed to take any medicine. I sleep fewer than five hours a day yet am always energetic.
I keep reminding myself that I should cultivate my xinxing and do what Master has told us, to “not fight back when you are beaten or sworn at.” (“People with Great Inborn Quality,” Lecture Nine, Zhuan Falun).
Whenever I run into hardships, I encourage myself with Master's teaching: “When it’s difficult to endure, you can endure it. When it’s impossible to do, you can do it.” (“People with Great Inborn Quality,” Lecture Nine, Zhuan Falun)
I have become open and positive and live by the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance.
However, after the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) launched its persecution of Falun Gong in 1999, I continually met with trouble.
My husband believed in the government's propaganda and turned against Dafa completely. He treated me badly.
When we were having lunch one day in 2004, he found out that an 80-year-old practitioner had just visited me. Without a word, he poured a big bowl of hot soup over my head.
I reminded myself that I was a cultivator and should not fight him. I recalled what Master said in “What is Forbearance (Ren)?” (Essentials for Further Advancement):
“Forbearance is the key to improving one’s xinxing. To endure with anger, grievance, or tears is the forbearance of an everyday person who is attached to his concerns. To endure completely without anger or grievance is the forbearance of a cultivator.”
I forgave him, but things turned worse. He beat me badly in February 2009 for something trivial. My nose and mouth were broken. I got a dozen stitches on my nose and eight stitches on my mouth at the hospital. I stayed in the hospital for 20 days, but my husband never visited me.
After I came out of hospital, he stopped giving me money. I had been a stay-at-home mom caring for our two children. I started looking for jobs. However, because of my broken nose and mouth, my interviews didn't go well.
With no job and no money, I started to resent him. My husband moved out of our home, claiming that he needed to stay at his company at night. Then, he filed for divorce in April.
I refused to divorce him. He tried to force me out of our home. He stopped paying for water, electricity, telephone service, and even the mortgage. He told his employees that I stole 70,000 yuan (US $10,000) from his company.
I felt that I had been pushed into a dead end with no way out. How miserable my life was!
Then, I thought about Master's poem “Tempering the Will” in Hong Yin:
“Abundant troubles rain down together,All to see: Can you pull through?The world’s miseries endured,One departs the earth a Buddha.”
I said to myself, “I will let go of everything and not worry about anything. Just be a good cultivator.”
Things started to work out. I found a job and was able to support myself and my children. My husband found someone new and wanted to marry the lady. To force me to divorce, he filed a paper claiming that I practiced Falun Dafa and that it created problems in the family. The “610 Office” took it as a political case with which to frame Falun Dafa.
Right then, the heavens punished my husband. He was suddenly struck by a cerebral hemorrhage in January 2011. He became partially paralyzed and couldn't speak clearly. His lover disappeared. I took him home since we hadn't divorced.
I still carried resentment against him. I kept reminding myself that Master told us to “attain the righteous Enlightenment of selflessness and altruism” (“Non-Omission in Buddha-Nature,” Essentials for Further Advancement).
I thought that his attitude would soften after this, but his bad temper was the same as before. He borrowed money to keep his business running, but it continued to lose money. A debtor took him to court and included me because he felt that my husband wouldn't be able to pay it back anymore. When the judge came to our home to discuss the payback, my husband ignored him. The judge asked me to pay for him.
I was so miserable! He wanted to divorce me. Had I accepted at that time, I wouldn't have had all these headaches! I told myself that I was too kind to him.
Then, I realized that those thoughts were not those of a cultivator. I kept thinking of Master and Dafa to calm myself down. I understood that, to help him get a better life, I should forgive him and help him.
I let go of my resentment of him. I no longer held any anger or grievances against him. I cared for him every day and also explained Dafa to him.
He gradually realized the severity of his doing bad things to Dafa. In 2016, he bowed to Master's portrait to ask for forgiveness. He also published a solemn statement to announce his withdrawal of his Communist Party membership. He watched Master's Fa lecture at the end of 2016.
I was quite moved by Master's benevolence: Dafa will offer salvation even to those who committed big crimes against Dafa.
My husband's sister was against me practicing Falun Gong before. After observing me these years, she developed respect for me. “Only you could tolerate my brother's bad temper,” she said. “Thank you so much for taking care of him!”