Tolerance Makes for Harmonious Relationships
(Minghui.org) Three years ago, I needed to rent an apartment, and my employer recommended a realtor to me, a Ms. Wang. She and I made an appointment with a landlord to check out a place. We got there on time, but the landlord, Ms. Heng, called and said she would be a little late.
Thirty minutes later, my realtor, Ms. Wang, had to leave and said I should go, too.
But I waited a little longer and called the landlord, Ms. Heng. She said she still needed a few minutes.
An hour later, she still hadn't shown up. I was wandering around in the apartment by myself and getting more and more upset. I then realized that there wasn't any harmony or peace in my heart.
I started to look inward. I am a cultivator who follows the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance. Why was I mad at someone? Why was I unhappy? Was it because she'd wasted my time? But this was a reason at the surface level. What was wrong with my heart? What should my understanding really be? I recalled Master's Fa teaching:
“It's tolerance, an extremely immense tolerance, being able to accept other beings, and being able to truly think from other beings' perspectives. This is something a lot of you haven't achieved yet in your cultivation, but you're gradually catching on and achieving it.” (“Teaching the Fa at the 2002 Fa Conference in Philadelphia, U.S.A.” from Teaching the Fa at the Conference II)
Then I realized that I needed to be tolerant. The landlord must have her reasons. She must be worried about being late, too. I calmed down and waited patiently.
Ms. Heng showed up an hour and a half late, but she was apologetic and kept saying, “Sorry, sorry.” I smiled at her and replied, “It doesn't matter.” She was surprised at my attitude.
After we finished everything, she said, “You are such a nice person. I was so late, but you were not mad at all. I couldn't stay calm if somebody did that to me. How did you do that?”
I told her that I practiced Falun Gong and that my master told me to be tolerant.
“You must have had your reasons for being late. You didn't want to be late.”
Ms. Heng explained her reasons and said, “Ah, Falun Gong. No wonder you are so nice. I heard from a Tibetan monk that Falun Gong is righteous. I didn't 100% believe him. A previous tenant of mine, who is the CEO of a large enterprise, also practiced Falun Gong. I wondered why such a successful woman would practice it. Now I see that Falun Gong practitioners really have big hearts. I now believe that Falun Gong is really good.”
She then asked me what the self-immolation at Tiananmen Square was really about, why the government suppresses Falun Gong, and other things.
After I told her the details, she realized, “Wow, all I've heard are communist party lies.”
I then told her that Falun Gong teaches people to live by the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance and how the practice improves one's body and mind. I told her the facts of the persecution, especially about the state-sanctioned forced live organ harvesting.
Ms. Heng listened quietly. She sighed, “Now I understand. I've learned so much today.” She was glad to quit the Party with my help.
In the following three years, I often ran into Ms. Heng for apartment-related matters. She was always busy and often late. Every time, I waited for her patiently.
The tolerance we learn from Dafa allows us to get along with each other so well. Every time we met, I told her something about Falun Gong and why people need to treat others nicely.
Recently, my lease ended. I made an appointment with her and my realtor, Ms. Wang. To my surprise, Ms. Heng got there early and was waiting for us.
She smiled at me and said, “I am not late this time.”
Ms. Wang was late. We waited for her for 30 minutes. Ms. Heng was patient. She talked to me and told me that she wanted to learn more about Falun Gong.
I promised her to lend her a copy of Zhuan Falun.