Dafa Resolves Decade-Long Resentment
(Minghui.org) I came from a large family—grandparents, parents, and seven siblings. My parents worked hard to raise us, especially my father. He didn’t say much, but he showed all of us his love with his actions.
Life was hard as a child, but I still managed to find happiness and fun. There was one thing that I did not like—my mother was unkind and mean to my father.
She was domineering and overbearing, and I did not know how to defend and protect him. I felt sorry for him.
He had to get up very early every day to go work in a factory far away and for years took only two pieces of cornbread as his meal of the day. His only day off was Sunday, and on that day he would wash our clothes and do household chores. I remember each one of us had only one set of clothes, which was passed down from our elder sibling.
Years of overwork took a toll on my father. He was diagnosed with esophageal cancer when he was only 55. Four months later, he was kept alive by an IV since he could no longer eat. When he needed help the most, my mother went back to her hometown for a long time. My father became depressed and despondent, and he committed suicide.
From that point on, resentment toward my mother burned inside me. I could not forgive her. Her coldness and cruelty towards my father was so uncalled for. When I grew up, I worked out of town. I visited her only during the New Year holiday. Whenever I saw her, I would see the suffering my father endured. I never smiled at her.
After I started practicing Falun Dafa, I realized as a cultivator that one should not bear resentment or hatred toward another. I did not know how to get rid of my attachment because it was deep inside me from childhood.
Master taught me:
“I am telling everyone that when an interpersonal conflict occurs or when one kicks or hits someone else, it is likely that these people owed each other in the past, and they are clearing the debt. If you step in to stop it, they will not be able to clear the debt and must wait to do it again the next time. This means that if you cannot see the karmic relationship, you can easily do bad deeds and lose de as a consequence.” (Zhuan Falun)
I learned that the grievances and grace between husband and wife are the result of karmic relationships of past lives. They were settling a score or paying a debt.
I took sides in the past because I could not see the deep implications behind what was going on. Through a child's eyes, things appeared so out of place and so unfair. I took their grievances as my own attachment, and it had nothing to do with me in the first place.
Master enlightened me further:
“An ordinary person will not understand it. When you look at these principles from high levels, everything will be different. Among everyday people you may find these principles correct, but they are not actually right. Only what is seen from high levels is truly right. It is usually like this.” (Zhuan Falun)
Dafa untied the knot within me and resolved my resentment and hatred.
Human suffering results from one's karma, and people only meet each other to resolve karmic debts between them!
People live in this maze, and they suffer, endure, and struggle so much without even being aware of it. They are so tragic. How could I still have resentment towards them?
Dafa not only resolved my resentment and hatred toward my mother, but I am able to regard my entire family with compassion and sentient beings as well.