New Practitioner: Falun Dafa Taught Me to Be Truly Compassionate
(Minghui.org) I started reading Zhuan Falun in September 2014. When I read,
"What is the Buddha Fa, then? The most fundamental characteristic of this universe, Zhen-Shan-Ren, is the highest manifestation of the Buddha Fa. It is the most fundamental Buddha Fa." (Lecture One in Zhuan Falun)
I was deeply moved. When I followed the principles of “Zhen-Shan-Ren (Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance)” to cultivate myself, amazing things happened.
Learning to Unconditionally Treat Others Kindly
I've been married for 5 years and my father-in-law has lived with us the entire time. My parents-in-law did not get along well after my father-in-law had an affair, so they separated.
Before I began practicing Falun Dafa, I became very angry whenever I had to do housework and complained that my mother-in-law was not there to help. I also complained that I had to look after our child by myself. I felt that I did all the work for our family and was resentful, unhappy and couldn't calm down.
After I started reading Zhuan Falun, I followed Master’s teachings. Master said,
“In this universe, there is another principle: If you have suffered a lot, the karma in your body will be transformed. Because you have suffered, however much you have endured will all be transformed into an equal amount of de. Isn’t this de what a practitioner wants? You will gain in two ways, as your karma is also eliminated. If the person did not create this situation for you, how could you upgrade your xinxing? If both you and I are nice to each other and sit there in harmony, how can it be possible to increase gong? It is precisely because that person has created this conflict for you that there is this opportunity to improve xinxing, and you can make use of it to upgrade your own xinxing. Isn’t your xinxing raised this way? You have gained in three ways. You are a practitioner. With xinxing upgraded, won’t your gong also increase? You have gained four ways in one shot. Why shouldn’t you thank that person? You should sincerely thank him from the bottom of your heart—it is actually so." (Lecture Four in Zhuan Falun)
Master’s teaching deeply moved me.
The first time I listened to "Traditional Culture,” a program on Minghui Radio, they played the song “Meng Xing" (composed by Dafa practitioners). I realized that I was married to my husband by predestined arrangement, and I also realized that I must be kind to the people around me! However, sometimes I still failed to control my temper and became angry.
Whenever I lost my temper, practitioners reminded me that Dafa requires us to treat others with compassion and requires us to be truly good people. I came to understand that as a Falun Dafa practitioner, I must treat others kindly even if they do not treat me well, and I must unconditionally love my family members.
From then on, when my husband and my father-in-law began giving me a hard time, I was able to smile and remain calm, kind and compassionate.
When I adjusted my behavior, amazing things began to happen. My father-in-law started to give us 2,000 yuan a month to cover his living expenses. He also stopped scolding me whenever something I did was not up to his standard. My husband also started coming home earlier and stopped verbally abusing me.
Now my entire family is happy and harmonious!
Discarding the Attachment to Personal Interest
There's a patch of open land by the building entrance. I planted some vegetables there last year and planned to plant a tree along one side. So, I dug a pit to plant the tree. However, I left for a while and someone filled it back in. I became angry, re-dug the pit and planted the tree.
As soon as I finished planting the tree, an old couple who live on the second floor came by. They looked at me and said, “We want to plant some vegetables here, why did you plant the tree?" They unhappily walked away.
The next morning, when I looked out my window, I saw the old man planting vegetables around my tree. I was really upset, since I, too, wanted to plant vegetables there. I felt he took away my land.
Even though I was upset, I remembered that Master taught us to cultivate away our attachments to fame, gain and emotion. I suddenly realized that I was angry about losing this piece of the land because I could not let go of my attachment to personal interest.
As soon as I understood that this was an opportunity to cultivate myself, my head stopped aching. When I gazed out the window again, I saw the old couple looking up at me and knew the way I acted was wrong. I took two bags of high quality pickled vegetables and went downstairs to talk to them.
I handed them the pickles and said, “You can have the land. I am not going to plant anything here.” They smiled happily. I also felt happy. I told them that they could also plant their vegetables on the piece of land where I had already planted things. They replied that they already had enough land to grow vegetables.
Through this experience, I came to understand that when people fight for things no one is happy and everyone is hurt. However, when people are considerate and treat each other kindly, everyone lives in harmony!
After I chatted with the couple, I waved at them and left on my bike. The soft spring breeze danced around me, and I felt at ease and happy!
Falun Dafa is truly good!