Letting Go of the Mentality of Complaining
(Minghui.org) I am a Falun Dafa group coordinator in my area and recently participated in rescuing arrested practitioners in my city. Coordinators have to meet with each other often, study the Fa together, and share with other practitioners.
We are encouraged to look inward instead of outward and not look for shortcomings in those who have been arrested.
However, some shortcomings are deeply hidden, as they have become second nature. Complaining is on the top of the list.
Realizing the Attachment Was Gone
Several of us coordinators were going to speak with family members of the detained fellow practitioners about how to rescue them, and also tell the facts to the public prosecutors who were involved in handling these cases.
We were to meet at 7:30 p.m. I arrived early and shortly after another coordinator arrived. Yet, none of the other two coordinators nor the family members arrived. We waited for more than 20 minutes, but no one came. We thought that they might be busy, and left for home.
After arriving at home, I suddenly remembered that in the past I would have complained that these practitioners were tardy, and did not keep their word, thus, wasting our time.
I realized that Master helped me remove my attachment to complaining.
During Fa study, we discovered that everyone had actually arrived on time. We had all seen some workers installing street light bulbs and watering roadside trees. However, we did not see each other.
Complaints Permeate Daily Life
Complaints exist everywhere in our daily life, and we no longer notice that we have a complaining nature. My mind began to analyze complaints and I came up with a long list of some very common complaints and notions.
1. Fate is unfair:Being born in rural areas, one does not have the same benefits as people who live in the city. One cannot be promoted because he or she has not come across someone who recognizes their talent. For one reason or another, one cannot join the army or be admitted to a university.
2. Relationships between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law:The mother-in-law complains that her daughter-in-law does not respect her and is not sensible. The daughter-in-law complains that her mother-in-law always creates difficulties and treats her other daughters-in-law better than her.
3. At the workplace:Bosses complain that their subordinates do not work hard, and the subordinates complain that their bosses do not pay attention to them.
4. Between a father and a son:The father complains that his son only wants to play, and the son complains that his father does not give him time to play.
5. Between a husband and a wife:The wife complains that her husband drinks and plays mahjong instead of helping her with the house chores. The husband complains that his wife is narrow-minded and does not give him time to enjoy his freedom.
6. In society:Grassroots people complain about social inequality and corrupt officials in the Communist Party. People from the higher society complain that poor people do not keep themselves clean, have a low education and make trouble.
Changing Human Notions
In China, because the Party promotes atheism, the traditional culture has been severely damaged. People neither bother with trifles nor keep their word. They would complain about each other when something unpleasant happens.
Looking back after having cultivated for some time, I was shocked. Normally, we pay much attention to eliminating attachments such as fear, jealousy, showing off, zealotry, resentment, and competitiveness. But, I find that we pay less attention to the attachment of complaining. This attachment comes from being selfish and one always puts oneself in the first place, always blaming other people for any misery.
Master told us:
“In genuine cultivation practice, one must cultivate one’s own heart and inner self. One should search inside oneself rather than outside.” (Zhuan Falun)
A few days ago, we again agreed to meet with a family member of an arrested practitioner at a certain place at a given time, and share how to communicate with a lawyer.
A coordinator and I arrived at the place ahead of time. We waited and waited, but they did not show up. Thirty minutes had already passed and they still had not shown up. I had no desire to complain, but instead, I waited for them patiently.
I then asked the other coordinator to look for them along the street. She found them on another street (they remembered the wrong junction). When we met, we nodded and smiled at each other, discussing what we should do next.