Following Dafa's Principles When Faced with My Husband's Affair

(Minghui.org) One day, one of my close friends told me that my husband was seeing an attractive, young woman.

She asked, “Are you aware of this? What are you going to do about it?”

I told her, “I did realize something was going on, but I believe things will work out. When I began practicing Falun Dafa, my entire family benefited. In time, my husband will correct his behavior.”

My husband is the chairman and managing director of a private company. He is tall and good looking, with a kind, peaceful disposition and a great sense of humor. He is greatly liked and respected by his employees. At home, our children also look up to him as their role model.

Unfortunately, the gradual decline in our society's moral standards influenced my husband.

When he was 63 years old in 2007, my husband met a talented engineer through his work. She was very open and often invited him out for drinks, meals, or karaoke sessions.

Soon after they began socializing, she told my husband that she was divorced and lived with her teenage son in a rented apartment. She wanted to be his mistress, and promised not to step inside our home or force him to break up our family.

If this had happened before I started practicing Falun Dafa, I would have flown into a rage and fought with him until he had no peace. But I am a practitioner, and have to hold myself to Dafa's principles and respond like a practitioner should.

Looking Within to Correct the Situation

In his lectures, Master has always tells us to search within whenever we encounter tribulations, and that a Dafa practitioner is always a good person, no matter the situation. I understood that this affair must have occurred because of some fault on my part.

So I followed the principles of Dafa and began to show more care and concern for my husband. I cleaned and tidied his room daily until it sparkled, and washed and pressed his clothes until they were perfect. I filled the refrigerator with his favorite foods.

I made our home so warm and comfortable that he was reluctant to leave it. But whenever he received a phone call from his mistress, he would still go out and see her. I decided that I needed to do better.

Saving Two Lives with Compassion

One morning, while I tidied my husband's room, his cell phone rang. He wanted to take the call outside, but I said calmly, “It's alright, you can take the call in here.” I heard him say that he was busy now, and would call back later.

I sat my husband down and said that I had something to tell him. I began gently, “We've been together for decades, and it wasn't easy for us to achieve what we have today. As your company's managing director, you have to set an example for your employees and maintain a good reputation. At home, I hope that you can be a role model for our children, and carry on the good name of our family.”

“This woman's son is studying in a good secondary school, and he will soon reach adulthood. I hope that her son can one day face the world, proud of his beautiful and talented mother, instead of feeling ashamed of her morally unacceptable behavior.”

I said, “It's morally unacceptable for the both of you to have this extramarital affair. Although I knew about it years ago, I didn't speak to you about it, as I hoped that the compassion I've cultivated through my Falun Dafa practice would eventually make you both come to your senses. I didn't fight with you over it, as I felt compassion and forgiveness for you both, but not because I supported your actions.

“In actuality, I cannot blame you two for what you've done. Under the corrupt rule of the Chinese Communist Party (CCP), China's societal values have degraded to an irreversible state. Some people's morals have degraded to a truly deplorable state, and they are capable of any kind of evil,” I told him.

I said, “But this moral degradation cannot go on forever, and if people do not correct themselves, Heaven will. There have been many natural and man-made disasters in recent years; perhaps, this is a warning to humans from Heaven.”

“For the sake of your future and hers, you both have to stop following this downward trend of human society. When you see her again, you must remember to tell her to quit the CCP and its affiliated organizations. Give her this Falun Dafa symbol, and tell her to recite 'Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good' with sincerity. By doing so, she will be blessed and protected by the heavens.”

My husband sat there motionless, clutching the amulet. A little later, I noticed he was crying. “What's wrong?” I asked. He replied, “Your Master is simply too great. He has taught disciples to have such great benevolence. Even this woman who has caused you so much hurt - you still want to save her as well. I'm going out and I'll be back in a while.”

When he came home late that afternoon, he told me that he had taken care of things and had severed his relationship with her. He told her to find a man who was more suitable to build a family with.

Not long after, that woman did indeed find a man, and they moved to another city. Two lives were righted with the great Buddha Fa.

From that day onward, my husband has had even greater faith in Dafa.