Complaints Lead to Tribulations
(Minghui.org) Practitioner A from our area was illegally arrested. The guards, in order to cause disharmony between practitioners, told A that practitioners from another area confessed that they gave her truth clarification materials. Practitioner A got upset and complained that Practitioner B, from our area, didn't pick up the materials in time, which led to her arrest. Under pressure and forced interrogation, Practitioner A gave B's information to the guards. Consequently, B was implicated. Practitioner A felt very guilty about it and was very discouraged and ashamed of herself. She lost her appetite and stopped taking care of herself. She didn't want to do anything and lost the will to live.
Many practitioners tried to help A after her release from the detention center, but things didn't improve. Her main consciousness was weak, and she couldn't study the Fa well. Messages from other dimensions caused her severe interference. She had conflicts with her family and was not able to break through the tribulations.
Of course, there are other reasons why this practitioner was persecuted, but I think the attachment to complaining brought forth such hardships. From this incident, I recall that I have complained about many things. Even though I didn't verbalize them, I've complained about my children not helping with the housework, my coworkers making my job difficult, the inefficiency of the employees at the bank, and the unruly pedestrians during rush hour. I would get irritable and lose the calmness and kindness a practitioner should have, letting demon nature manifest.
Why do I complain? The fundamental reason is that when encountering conflicts, I still do not look inward based on the Fa principles. Another reason is that I still have the attachment of jealousy. For example, I feel wronged when I work more for less pay or when others don't do their job properly. The third reason is because I'm attached to comfort and always hope that things will go smoothly so that I don't have to bear any hardship.
I realized the seriousness of the issue after I met Practitioner A. I also noticed that some practitioners who have encountered hardships harbor resentment toward others. They hold onto their attachments even tighter and thus are unable to break through their tribulations as they become bigger. I know of a practitioner who complained about her son being rude and disrespectful to her. Her son often insulted her and even beat her. She looked inward and found resentment toward her son, and she eliminated the attachment. She thought he was under a lot of pressure because of the persecution and felt sorry for him. She wrote a letter full of compassion and told her son that he will receive blessings for treating Falun Dafa practitioners with kindness, and also wrote about the values of traditional Chinese culture. Her son's attitude toward her changed overnight.
How do we eliminate the attachment to wanting to complain?
“If we encounter these problems, we should not compete and fight like others. If you do what that person did, aren’t you an ordinary person? Not only should you not compete and fight like him, but also you should not resent that person in your heart. Really, you should not hate that person. If you hate that person, aren’t you upset? You have not followed forbearance. We practice Zhen-Shan-Ren, and you would have even less compassion so to speak of. So you should not be like him or become really upset with him, despite his putting you in this awful situation where you cannot even raise your head. Instead of being angry with him, you should thank him in your heart and thank him sincerely.” (Zhuan Falun)
Complaining and whining are forms of resentment that can make us intolerant and unkind. If we think we are right, and do not reject it and eliminate it, then it can result in resentment. This attachment can easily lead to jealousy. If we solve the problem using the wrong method, we can turn a small problem into a big tribulation.
We should watch for our tendency to complain and eliminate it immediately, try to keep a compassionate and calm heart, and measure our thoughts and actions against the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance so that we can walk our cultivation path steadily and save more sentient beings.
Above are my understandings. Please kindly point out anything inappropriate.