Remaining Calm in a Conflict Brings a Better Outcome
(Minghui.org) A few days ago, we had a security door installed in my apartment. The whole installation process had become a process of testing my xinxing.
It began when the two guys from the installation company showed up late, around 5 p.m. They installed the door, but left in a hurry. The installation fee was paid, but later I found that the lock did not work.
My husband got very angry and took his anger out on me. No matter how angry he was, I stayed calm. I felt fortunate because I had a chance to convince those two young men to quit the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) and give them a Falun Dafa amulet. I also understood that this was a good opportunity to raise my xinxing.
My husband continued to blame me all night. Around 2 a.m., I went over and attempted to calm him down, but it only made things worse and he scolded me even more.
All of a sudden, a strong grudge surfaced in me, and I began to hate him. He graduated in the 60s from a prestigious university, while I was just an ordinary worker. In the past, he frequently expressed that I wasn’t good enough for him.
I attempted to argue, but quickly realized that I was a Dafa practitioner and should follow a higher standard and maintain my xinxing. With that thought, I calmed down.
The next morning, my husband continued complaining. He threw the installation company’s business card at me and asked me to take care of this mess. I remained calm.
I called the company at 7:30 a.m. and explained the situation. The company sent a technician right away; he arrived around 8:30 a.m. The technician was about 17 or 18 years old, of similar age to our youngest child. Without much difficulty, the young man got the key and opened the door.
I realized that this situation was arranged to have this young man obtain salvation. I saw an opportunity to explain the facts about the persecution to him and ask him to quit the CCP and its associated organizations. I was able to convince him to withdraw from the CCP's youth leagues and gave him a Dafa amulet. The young man was very happy and left.
At this point, my husband’s anger was gone, and he even blamed himself a little. He said, “For some reason, I was very angry at you last night and could not fall asleep, but my anger is gone now.”
I replied, “You have helped me raise my xinxing and save one more person.”
From this incident, I have understood more deeply what Master said in Zhuan Falun regarding quadruple benefits. When one encounters a conflict, maintaining xinxing enables one to get rid of karma and bring about a different outcome.