My Life Is Complicated But Happy
(Minghui.org) When I got remarried, my husband and I each had a child from a previous marriage. In the eyes of others, our family was too complicated, so many people thought that things would not work out between us. However, my husband and I have gotten along rather well for over ten years now, or, as my stepson explains it, “Because my mother is a Falun Dafa practitioner.”
I am strict with myself about acting according to the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance, and I earnestly follow Master's teachings.
“We have also said that if every one of us cultivates his inner self, examines his own xinxing to look for the causes of wrongdoing so as to do better next time, and considers others first when taking any action, human society would become better and ethical standards would again rise.” (Zhuan Falun)
My husband once said to me, “The children need new shoes. Please take them with you and buy them shoes.” While out shopping, my stepson suddenly changed his mind and said, “Mom, instead of buying me shoes, please buy me a quilted jacket and a woolen sweater.” Since his old jacket and sweater did not fit him well, and he needed new clothes for the coming New Year, I took his suggestion. However, since our household was on a tight budget, I only bought the two items for him and nothing for my daughter.
When we returned home, my husband got very upset with me for not buying the kids shoes and starting cursing at me.
At first, I felt very wronged and complained in my heart: “I only bought something for your son and nothing for my daughter. Instead of thanking me for my kindness, you scolded me!”
I quickly realized that, as a Dafa disciple, I need to consider others first and should always be patient. I did not defend myself or argue my point, instead, I quietly recited the Fa:
“Maybe as soon as you walk in the door, your spouse blows up right in your face. If you can endure it, today’s exercises weren’t in vain.” (Zhuan Falun)
Later, he apologized and said that it was not right for him to lose his temper over the slightest provocation. He then asked me how I was able to consistently endure his unreasonable and angry words. I explained to him that, as a practitioner, I had to follow a higher standard and restrain myself. He said, “Falun Dafa is really good! I want to practice, too.”
This year, my 16-year-old stepson is ranked number one in his class. My daughter turns 13 soon, and her studies are going very well, too. Both kids have positive attitudes towards Dafa and always support me in my practice. They have the greatest respect for Teacher and kowtow to his picture on every Chinese festival and on New Year's Day, too
My mother-in-law moved in with our family and always praises me for being kind. Although she has three grown daughters and two other sons, she prefers to stay with us because she feels comfortable in our company.
I would like to express my gratitude for Teacher's compassionate salvation and encourage people to understand the truth about Falun Dafa. Please make an effort to distinguish good from bad and remember that “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.” This way, you and your family will enjoy a bright future!