Dafa Taught Me to Let Go of Resentment and Save Family Members
(Minghui.org) I started to practice Falun Dafa in the summer of 1996. In my 16 years of cultivation, Dafa has given me countless precious things. Today I will describe several of my experiences to validate the greatness of Falun Dafa.
Bathing in Lord-Buddha's Graciousness
In May of 1996 my daughter was born. When she was just one month old, I had a relapse of chronic colitis. Before I got married, I was weak with multiple illnesses; after I got married, I was depressed and had insomnia and a poor appetite from the stress of everyday family conflicts. I came down with chronic colitis and had diarrhea with 5 to 6 watery bowel movements each day. I tried Western medicine, Chinese medicine, folk prescriptions, and Qigong. But none of them helped; I became thinner and thinner.
During my pregnancy, my colitis seemed to go away, but as soon as the baby was born, it returned. In order to take care of me and my daughter, my mother came to live with us. When she went out to do exercises in the morning, someone gave her a copy of China Falun Gong.
One day I picked up the book and took a glance. The book immediately attracted me, and the more I read, the more I was attracted to it. I read through it without stopping. From deep in my heart, I knew that the book was really good and possessed healing power.
Although in my mind I had the pursuit of wanting to heal my illness, compassionate Master encouraged me by purifying my body and healing me. The first time I went out to do the exercises, my colitis miraculously disappeared. From then on, I have not had any stomach trouble, regardless of what I eat. I can even drink water directly from the tap without any problem. One day I discovered that the arthritis and hemorrhoids I had before had disappeared as well.
Before I stared cultivation in Falun Dafa, I often took medication and had frequent IV infusions, but was still very weak. Now I no longer take medication and I’m getting healthier and healthier. I do not feel tired no matter how much work I do or how many stairs I climb.
In the past, I was feeble, had a poor complexion, and always felt inferior. Now I have a healthy complexion with delicate, bright skin. I am energetic and I have the innocent look of purity and compassion, which is the typical nature of a practitioner. People who see me for the first time are often shocked when I tell them that I am 45 years old. They often ask me what my beauty secrets are. I tell them, "I don't know any beauty secrets. I just practice Falun Gong."
I am bathing in the Buddha-light every day and have deep gratitude for the Lord Buddha's compassion.
Discarding Resentment and Saving Family Members
I was born in a farming family, but I married into a family with social status. My mother-in-law was very demanding and instilled fear in everyone. I had once regretted my choice of this marriage. After I started cultivating, I came to understand that all of this is not without reason, and this is the path I have to walk.
I considered her the troublemaker in the family. Due to the different social statuses of my husband's family and my family, my mother-in-law looked down on me and caused all kinds of trouble. She even started conflicts between my husband and me. At first, I endured all this silently. As time went on, I began taking out all my anger on my husband because I did not dare confront my mother-in-law. I shouted and yelled at him, and we were on the verge of divorce.
My husband is the eldest among his siblings, but I had no status in the family. My husband's two sisters-in-law often bad-mouthed me in front of my mother-in-law. Because I did not have a sharp tongue, I was not able to fight back. But I was really angry and kept thinking about revenge.
After I started practicing Falun Dafa, I did my best to resist the resentment mentality and treated everyone in the family with compassion. I treated my in-law’s children as my own. They often said, "It would be nice if you were my mom." I did not pursue self interest when I dealt with them, and I just tried to offer them more help in their daily lives. Every time the family had a gathering, my husband and I paid for it. After my father-in-law retired, we began to take care of his daily expenses and medical treatment. Every time my mother-in-law was hospitalized, I did my best to take care of her, serving her food, giving her her medicine, and taking her to the bathroom. Now I no longer carry any resentment, and when I see her poor condition, I only feel pity.
After the publication of the Nine Commentaries on the Communist Party, I started talking to our family members one by one and gradually persuaded everyone in my husband's family to withdraw from the CCP and its affiliated organizations. My mother-in-law also read through Zhuan Falun, and she occasionally practices the exercises. Soon after she started doing the exercises, she told me with excitement, “When I was doing the sitting meditation, I saw that the room was full of Lotus lamps. They were pretty.” Several days later, she told me again, “I saw such a big eye and it scared me.” I told her, “Master was encouraging you. Keep practicing Falun Gong diligently.”
Now all my in-laws have changed their views about me. My mother-in-law announced, "Now I am old and I am dependent on my eldest son and his wife." My mother-in-law now very much agrees with me and she thinks that what I say is reasonable. My husband's two brothers and their wives also respect me. One of the brothers said to his friend, “My eldest sister-in-law is the best one in the family." My husband often said to his friends with pride," I have a successful career because I have a good wife." Now I have great status in the family.
Through cultivating Dafa, I became truly good and harbored no resentment. If I did not start cultivating Falun Dafa, I would now be like many other ordinary people who keep fighting with others and are not able to enjoy the warmth of family.
Although my supernormal powers have been locked throughout my cultivation path, Dafa manifested some miracles to strengthen my determination to cultivate.
One day after I had just started to practice, I rode my motorcycle to work. As I was making a turn at the entrance where I worked, a big motorcycle suddenly came toward me at a high speed. I had no time to react, and, before I knew it, he had crashed into the side of my motorcycle. After I realized what had happened, I found myself still sitting on my motorcycle without any injuries. But my motorcycle was almost severed; it had a large crack in the middle. I came to understand immediately that Master had protected me. That big motorcycle landed far away, and the young man fell to the ground. I hurried over to see him. He was lucky that he wore thick clothes and, with the exception of some minor broken skin, he did not have any significant injuries. He initially yelled at me, "Can't you drive? I'm not finished with you." I did not argue with him and just said calmly, "I'm sorry, I'll go with you to the hospital." He saw that I had a good attitude and calmed down and said, “Let's forget it.” I said, "I work here and my name is “X.” If you have other injuries, you can come find me.”
From deep in my heart, I thanked Master for enduring so much karma for us. Without Master's protection, I would have been seriously injured.
My Mother-in-Law's Cell Phone
Some time ago when my mother-in-law was doing the exercises, she liked the way I was using my cell phone to play the music for them. She said, “I just bought a new cell phone. Can you check whether my phone has that function?" I saw that her phone came with a memory card. I inserted the memory cart into a card reader and saw that the card already had the music for the five sets of exercises but nothing else.
I was very moved and told her about this. She said, "The first time I turned on this phone, I did not know which button I pushed and heard the exercise music. I was wondering how this could happen and other people in the family told me it was impossible.” I said, "See, Master is looking after you and encouraging you. Keep cultivating diligently and don't smoke anymore.”
This was, in fact, also an indication Master gave me. I saw that my mother-in-law kept smoking and drinking after starting the practice. In addition, she was still being deceived by the Chinese Communist Party’s propaganda and, on occasion, acted disrespectfully toward Master. My attachment came up as I could not bear the sight of her doing that. I did not want to encourage her to practice Falun Gong and did not want to help her. Master saw my attachment and told me in this way to be persistent and patient. I was very moved. Only our Master has the compassion to forgive people's mistakes and to save them, as long as there is a little bit of hope; Master is always compassionate. I felt ashamed. We are all Master's loved ones. What right do I have to prevent others from cultivation?
Protecting Dafa Disciples Is Not Dangerous
A few days ago I learned that a Falun Gong practitioner in my husband's administrative area was arrested. I asked my husband, and he told me that he did not know about it. I urged him to make arrangements to get the practitioner released immediately. Out of fear and self protection he did not take action for the first two days. On the third day I asked him again, “Is the practitioner released?” He mumbled, “I have a stomachache and medicine does not seem to help.” I asked him with concern and then urged him to get the practitioner released. He took out his phone and called the head of the 610 Office. He inquired about the situation and asked the head to release the practitioner. He also asked the 610 Office head to not make arrests in this kind of situation in the future. The other party told my husband that the practitioner was already released.
I saw that he did the right thing and then sent a thought in my mind to stop his stomachache. I told him, “Your stomach is going to stop hurting soon. Don't worry.” He later went out to eat and reported, “My stomach stopped hurting.”
Through this incident, my husband once again witnessed the dignity of Falun Dafa. This also made him understand a principle, that those who protect Dafa practitioners are actually the safest and most fortunate people.”