Get Rid the Desire to Force Things Upon Others
“Thus, your actions will be a reflection of the state of your cultivation. When you are working together and you feel wronged or get angry, it's hard at that moment to reflect on your role in the matter or look within and realize what your state is or what attachment triggered that event. The majority of the time it's that [you are upset about] your suggestion not being adopted or that you looked down on someone. The manifestation of these two attachments tends to be the most intense.” (“Fa Teaching at the 2009 Washington DC International Fa Conference”)
I am aware that the mindset of looking down on others is often hidden very deeply and is difficult to detect. When I am unable to detect it, my behavior becomes even worse. Often I fight with my cultivating family members without knowing the reason or being able to explain why. I tried to retrace my thoughts and look inward, and finally realized that without getting rid of the attachment of looking down on others, one will force things on others.
Because I feel others are inferior or have some inferior qualities, I cannot help wanting to change them. To do that and prove myself correct, I need to convince them. At first I can control my attitude and tone, and feel that I am saying things for the good of others. But when others do not accept my advice and argue with me, I will unwittingly be affected by the fighting philosophy and the antagonism that have been instilled in me through the culture of the Chinese Communist Party. I want to convince others that they are wrong and prove that I am right. I want to show that I am better than them. If my opinion is not accepted, I will argue and fight, and eventually become resentful and even revengeful. At the same time, I think I am acting for the good of others. It is just like the old forces, who try to influence the Fa-rectification for their own selfish purposes.
Teacher said in Zhuan Falun,
“We’d say that people invite all those troubles just because that idea they have isn’t right, and their thoughts aren’t proper.”
Especially since we have cultivated for so long now, if one has some attachment remaining, the old forces will take advantage of this and use tricks to harm you. For example, if you have the attachment of forcing things on others, the old forces will let others force things on you. They either let you have a boss who likes to force you to do things, or let the Communist Party organization force you to attend all kinds of activities. It is because you have the desire of wanting to force things on people that the evil gets into your loophole and forces bad things onto you. To correct this, we need to look inside ourselves for causes. I have become more appreciative of the fact that “the appearance stems from the mind.” (“Fa Teaching Given at the Epoch Times Meeting”)
When one’s attachment of forcing things on others is eliminated, the surrounding environment will change accordingly, and one will no longer have things forced upon oneself either. To be more precise, if one gets rid of the attachment of forcing things on others, and completely uses benevolence to deal with everything, one will be free from the control of the old forces on this matter, since the old forces rely on this attachment to do harm.
“The old forces' factors are bold enough to play the role they do among Dafa disciples precisely because you have the human thinking that I described and needed such people to appear. You have to be clear on this.” (“Fa Teaching at the 2009 Washington DC International Fa Conference”)
I also enlightened that if we all follow what Teacher says, cultivate ourselves well, and act according to what Dafa demands of us, we should be able to protect ourselves and control everything in our own environments. Things around us will change according to our thoughts that have assimilated to the Fa because our thoughts are divine. When we cultivate well, the old forces will not be able to find any loopholes. When we study the Fa well, we will have the power of the Fa.
The above are my own thoughts. Please point out my shortcomings.