(Clearwisdom.net) Recently, I came to a new understanding of the Fa with regard to handling the relationship between my wife and me. I gained this understanding from reading Zhuan Falun and other articles from Master, and then reading fellow practitioners’ sharings of their understandings on similar issues and improvement in cultivation.
I realize that sometimes there may be conflicts between my wife and me, because we are human and not perfect. Although there may be conflicts, I should still search inward to find where I am not aligned with the Fa and get rid of my shortcomings. Shortcomings such as selfishness, being inconsiderate, complaining, etc. can be identified through conflicts and eliminated. There is one thing that we should pay attention to, and that is that personal cultivation is different from Fa-rectification. For example, you need to pay attention if a family member is upset with you and says something evil. It is possible the old forces are controlling them.
We do not acknowledge the persecution, because Master and Dafa didn't arrange it. It may be that our family members say something like that because the old forces have taken advantage of our loopholes. Thus, we need to look inward and get rid of the attachment that created the loophole. We need to eliminate the old forces with righteous thoughts. If we don't, the old forces' arrangements can be used to persecute us. That is unacceptable. Therefore, we must seriously eliminate the old forces and their arrangements. In the past, I didn’t pay attention to searching inward and eliminating the old forces' arrangements. As a result, I was taken to a brainwashing center and persecuted. That was a lesson learned.
We should not resent our family member even though they may have had a bad thought and were used by the old forces. We can calmly tell them the facts at the level of their understanding and clarify any misunderstandings they may have. The bad thought from our family member has no effect; what is taking effect is the old forces behind him or her in another dimension. In the past, I didn’t realize it. I fought with my wife and treated conflicts with human notions. That left an excuse for the old forces to persecute me and resulted in losses to my family and me.
If a practitioner can't overcome family tribulations, the practitioner may be persecuted. The family member, used by the old forces, may also commit a sin against the Fa. That shouldn’t happen. I heard about a practitioner who was illegally imprisoned and his wife died from cancer. They were not able to overcome their conflicts and both were persecuted by the old forces.
On one hand, practitioners need to improve on the Fa. On the other hand, I would like to say to the families of practitioners: The best way to keep a practitioner safe is to allow him or her to clarify the truth and lead a normal social life, and to remind the practitioner to study the Fa and clarify the truth well, and pay attention to safety. Don't be used by the evil and prevent practitioners from saving people.
In the past, I didn’t do well on the three things. I viewed problems with human notions and couldn’t get over family tribulations for a long time. Now that I pay attention to doing the three things well, I feel calmer and steadier in what I do. In fact, the real tribulation is not from the outside, but from within one’s heart. This is true for both a practitioner and his/her family member.
