Resolving Conflicts by Looking Inward

(Clearwisdom.net) To find one's true self we must calmly study the Fa and let it penetrate our innermost being. By looking inward and evaluating our every thought and action with the Fa principles, we can improve our xinxing. In order to show the beauty of the Fa, we must have righteous thoughts and righteous actions.

Master wrote,

“Study the Fa and gain the Fa,
Focus on how you study and cultivate,
Let each and every thing
be measured against the Fa.
Only then, with that,
is it actually cultivation” (“Solid Cultivation” from Hong Yin).

When my husband and I had an argument once, I remember being attached to arguing and I would do anything to prove that I was right. These are elements derived from a Chinese Communist Party education and not being able to let it go. I was disrespectful and yelled at him. I did not looking inward. My seven-year-old grandson was lying on the bed at the time, and looked very uncomfortable. He kept rolling back and forth and yelling, “Shut up, shut up!” I soon realized that Master was using my grandson to help me cultivate my speech. I was really shaken and said to Master in my heart, “I was wrong. Master, please forgive me. I have made a mistake.”

I was attached to saving face and still didn't think to apologize to my husband. When I realized this, I thought it over in my mind as to what I would like to say to him, “I am sorry. I was wrong...” As soon as I had this thought, my grandson got up and started to play happily. It was amazing. A moment ago my husband was very angry and cursed at me. After I realized my attachments, he came back from another room and spoke in a very calm and kind voice, as if we had never argued at all. Looking inward is really something magnificent.

Master has arranged for practitioners to look inward and use the Fa principles to evaluate all trials and tribulations. It is unimportant how others may treat us; we must have righteous thoughts and be kind to everyone. We must unconditionally find, correct and remove unrighteous elements within ourselves. We will then be able to walk our paths well and righteously. When we act this way, how can anyone interfere with our thoughts or move our hearts?

If people that do not want to listen to us or have problems accepting what we say, then we need to look inward and evaluate the situation based on the Fa principles. It may come about as a result of a conflict or debt from a previous life. We should not let it affect us, and be grateful towards the person instead, for they are helping us remove our karma. We must study the Fa well and fill our minds with the Fa's principles. This way we can heighten our righteous thoughts and be in a better position to save sentient beings.