Save Our Family Members
(Clearwisdom.net) As far as I know, some practitioners still haven't created a good cultivation environment at home. Some parents oppose them; some children don't support them, fearing that the cultivation will have a bad effect on these children; even some spouses are against them and want to divorce them. So some practitioners simply left home and rented a place to live alone to avoid those conflicts. They thought that, this way, their family members wouldn't interfere with them and the cultivation environment would be quieter, so they could do the three things better and tell the facts of Falun Gong and save more sentient beings. I have some thoughts in this regard I'd like to share with these practitioners.
The following three points may be the reasons that lead to this situation.
First, the practitioners are not clear about some of the Fa. Teacher states clearly, "you know that in our discipline we don't avoid the ordinary world when we cultivate, and we don't shy away from or try to escape from conflicts." (Zhuan Falun)
Secondly, the practitioners haven't "clarified the facts" clearly and completely to their families. My understanding is that it is the most difficult, yet also the easiest to clarify the facts to family members. We don't need to tell them a lot of theories--our families judge us only according to what we say and what we do. For example, if we show filial piety to our parents, are considerate of our spouses, take care of our children, and treat the family well, they will see that our behavior is guided by the Fa. Even trivia can be used to validate the Fa, and everything we do conveys the facts.
Thirdly, regarding taking things easy and not wanting to suffer. It is painful whenever conflicts surface. Not wanting to look inside, the person instead always thinks about how wrong others are, feels quite aggrieved, and doesn't know how to cultivate his or her xinxing--as if the person is cultivating for others. That person doesn't change him or herself from his or her nature and is still very selfish: "I'll cultivate; I'll upgrade myself; you cannot interfere with me."
All these reasons describe the winding paths I took. When I look back on the route I took, it is so clear that my zigzagging path left a deep dent of regret and pain in the lives of my family members. My husband and I were divorced and we didn't see each other for many years. Regrettably, he passed away due to illness. He wore an amulet(1) and had quit the Communist Party. Before his death he wanted to see me and tried to contact me, but we did not get in contact with each other. People said that he died with regret. We cultivators all know that his knowing side wanted to find Dafa to be saved, but it was too late. Definitely, there also existed interference from the old forces.
If every practitioner behaves in accordance with the "Fa" among their family members, their neighbors, their friends, and their colleagues, and if all of them understand the truth, they themselves can be "mobile truth clarification sources" in their families and their community.
The above is my personal experience I'd like to share with other practitioners. I hope that other practitioners will not make the same mistakes I did. Let us study more Fa and study the Fa well. Let go of self and step out of family conflicts as soon as possible. Harmonize what Teacher wants and save our family members who have a special predestined relationship with us and then save more sentient beings.
(1) Amulets - In China, practitioners sometimes clarify the truth by giving people something small to wear or cherish, bearing a few words reminding them of the goodness of Dafa.