Have Patience When Clarifying the Truth to Family and Friends
(Clearwisdom.net) In the past, when I clarified the truth to family and close friends, many of them would say: "You should not be against the government." Once they found out that my school knew that I believe in Falun Dafa, they became more against my practicing and clarifying the truth to other people. They thought that this would get me suspended from school.
My family even beat me in front of relatives and friends during the New Year celebration. They wanted me to promise not to practice. I did not comply. They did not give me any money for my studies, in the hopes that I would give up Dafa. Again I did not comply. My family caused interference for about three months. When I returned to school, they called frequently and used the withholding of money for my studies and the pressure of family relationships to interfere with me. I did not let this move me.
At the same time, I realized that I needed to make money myself. Money issues should not interfere with validating Dafa. I found a job near Tiananmen Square, and could send forth righteous thoughts at a close distance. I then found two concurrent jobs. I used this income to clarify the truth to family members and classmates, and help them renounce the Chinese Communist Party (CCP). Most of them accepted and agreed to let me help them renounce the CCP on the website designated for this purpose.
My Cousin and His Wife
My cousin and his wife did not believe the facts when I explained it to them, and they tried to get me to change my thinking. But after they went to Hong Kong, their attitude changed, and they learned the truth about the persecution. I want to thank the practitioners who clarified the truth in Hong Kong, Macau, and other areas visited by tourists from Mainland China. Even though many people did not receive truth-clarification material, they still understood the truth. At least an impression was made in their minds, and then when someone else discusses these issues with them, it is easier for them to accept.
My cousin's wife really agreed with my analysis of the CCP. She said that after listening to me, she finally understood it after all these years. She told me that her father was a veteran CCP member. Because he was sleepy at a CCP meeting, he was forced to resign from his job. He became very bothered and depressed and eventually died of cancer. A couple days ago she saw her father in her dream, and he was lying down. In her dream she knew her father had died, but it seemed as if he had some serious disease and would deteriorate quickly. I said, "The Communist evil spirit has been controlling him. This evil spirit wants to pull people down."
During the school year, classmate A always urged me not to practice Falun Gong. He wrote numerous letters from his viewpoint telling me not to practice. One day classmate A and classmate B came to Beijing on business and we met. Because classmate A saw the corruption of the CCP once he started working and did not believe in what the CCP said anymore (he believed it a lot in college), and after listening to me tell him what Master had said, and how to be a good person, he finally understood that Falun Dafa was really good. He said it was good that I had a strong belief and did not stop practicing. Classmate B said that he does not believe in the CCP either. Afterwards, classmate A and B agreed to let me help them renounce the Communist Youth League and Young Pioneers.
Grandmother and Grandfather
In spring of this year, my grandmother was diagnosed with cancer. After learning this, I went to see her. In the beginning of 1999, before the persecution of Falun Gong began, she read Dafa books and still had them at her house.
When I saw my grandmother, I sincerely shared my cultivation experience and told her about the power of Dafa and all the positive changes I experienced after cultivating. I said to her, "Counting my visit this time, Dafa has beckoned you three times. You must not give up this opportunity." She said, "Right, this is also a predestined relationship." My grandmother learned the practice with me. Now she can study the Fa and practice the exercises daily. She does not become carsick anymore (she used to have serious carsickness). This was another manifestation of the power of Dafa.
My grandfather said he believes in Communism. He had to apply for three years before he was allowed to join the wicked CCP. I told them about all the wicket things that the CCP does, and they agreed with me. I told them that Dafa is good, and they did not disagree. But when I told them that the crime of the CCP is so huge and only by renouncing it can they be saved from going down with it, they did not agree anymore. They thought I was getting involved in politics when I helped people to withdraw from the CCP. Attempting to help them understand, I first talked about myself and told them that I have no political interest at all.
The morning of the second day of my visit, my grandfather got up from bed and said his whole body was cold. I thought the Communist evil spirit must have caused this phenomenon. I sent forth righteous thoughts and later read Lunyu to him. My grandfather thought it was good and said, "I have read this part before. How come it did not seem as good as when you read it today?"
I handed the Dafa book to him, and he said he'd read it carefully. However, after reading for a while, he felt dizzy and stopped reading. He came out of the room to chat with me, so I continued to tell him and grandmother about the necessity of quitting the CCP. After some time, they again talked about my "involvement in politics." I was about to leave and yet they still did not understand. I could not help crying as I was talking. I said, "It is not easy for me to have an opportunity to take a train to visit you. If I leave without having you quit the CCP, you may not realize how dangerous it will be for you, but I know. So I must tell you. This wicked CCP has done so much evil that Heaven cannot tolerate it, and that's why I ask you to renounce it. Why do you always say that I am involved in politics?"
My grandfather went in another room for a while, and when he stepped out he said, "I agree to quit now. I had planned to quit after retirement, but now I will quit the CCP right away." My grandmother and I looked at each other and smiled.
Before that, my uncle, uncle's wife and their daughter also withdrew from the CCP, the Youth League and the Young Pioneers. My uncle's daughter also helped two of her classmates quit the Young Pioneers.
Other Family Members
During the Chinese New Year celebration, my family members refused to give me money, so I could not go to school, nor would they let me come home, all in order to stop me from practicing Falun Gong. Now they ask me if I have enough money and when am I going to come home. The attitude of my relatives in my hometown has also changed. They ask me if I have been living well and when I will come home.
I remember once while talking to my aunt's husband, I told him about how I was treated by the rest of my family during the Chinese New Year, and asked if it was because I had done something wrong. He replied, "No, but your family is afraid that something could happen to you." I said, "Since I didn't do anything wrong, then they are wrong for pressuring me like that. If anything should happen to me [that is, if the authorities were to arrest the author because of practicing Falun Dafa], you should blame this wicked CCP, since that's the real culprit!"
When I came home, my relatives apologized profusely for following my parents in pressuring me during the New Year period. After I asked them to withdraw from the CCP and the Youth League, almost all of them agreed to do so. My second aunt also told me, "I know Falun Dafa is good, but the government has banned it. Whenever it is allowed again, I will practice it also!"
My Aunt and a Fellow Practitioner
One day two or three months ago, I had a dream in which an aunt I rarely saw (she also practiced Falun Gong before, but had signed a statement pledging not to practice and did not write a solemn statement to nullify it afterwards) was at my house. The scene was like a New Year celebration. There were many people and plenty of delicious food, but no one sat down to eat. I asked her, "Why don't you come and eat?" At the time her face was very pale and streaked with tears. The bowl she held in her hands was empty. She said nothing and could only look at me.
After I woke up, I decided to talk to her when I went back home and help her get back to cultivation. Since she has no computer and I don't have a printer, I hand-copied some of Master's new articles for her. She told me she knew a fellow practitioner who could access the Internet, but her fellow practitioner has not been able to get Master's new articles of the past several years either. I went to that practitioner's home and showed her how to use Dynaweb to break through the CCP's Internet blockade. I told them of the Three Things Master has told disciples to do and with their approval, I helped them send out their solemn statements to resume cultivation. After that, our fellow practitioner learned to access the overseas website, and she immediately sent out a statement quitting the Youth League and the Young Pioneers. On that day, it was my first contact with these fellow practitioners in the past few years. I was very happy. I said to the fellow practitioner that from then on, she should be responsible for truth clarification and people's futures of her region.
I have gone through a relatively difficult path. I realize that no matter what people say and how seriously they say it, it may not be their true thoughts. Master said in "Explaining the Fa During the 2003 Lantern Festival at the U.S. West Fa Conference,"
"Actually, let me tell you, you shouldn't give too much weight to what ordinary people say, because lots of ordinary people aren't rational. Human beings, you know, are affected by many concepts in the ordinary society, and they're constantly forming different concepts, which severely affect their original nature and true thoughts. So the things some people say seem right but are actually wrong, are insincere, or are poorly thought-out. Don't think that ordinary people are as rational as you are. Lots and lots of people are pretty irrational right now, and actually, you were like that too at the beginning. (Audience laughs) You only became more rational after you matured and bad things were removed. When an ordinary person comes to understand things, or decides whether something is good or bad, it's done at a very shallow level. Even what he says to his family and to people who've done a lot for him seems right but is actually wrong, it's insincere, he doesn't make good on promises, and he avoids responsibility for any consequences. So don't think it's significant. If you want to save him then you need to help him become rational."
In clarifying the truth, we meet many friends and family members who don't understand the truth. We cannot give up on them just because they don't understand at the time, for that does not mean that they won't understand in the future.