By a practitioner in China　　

　　Before I started practicing Falun Dafa, both my husband and I had short tempers and would never yield to each other.　We spent most of our time fighting.　Then my husband was sentenced to prison and his family also had several accidents. I asked my mother-in-law to live with me and led her to practice Dafa. hree years later my husband was released. Although he had no income he spent money freely while I tried to be thrifty. I tried to tolerate him, but he still picked on me. Once, over a minor issue, he pointed his finger at my nose and insulted me in the presence of my mother-in-law and my friends. I was miserable and often cried.　　　

    Since I practice Dafa, I understood the principles and realized that I needed to practice forbearance. When I encountered conflicts, I always tried to improve my character, but because I did not look within and find my attachments, the conflicts still continued. I still could not always control my temper. his went on for a long time.　　　

　　It was after carefully reading the　Nine Commentaries on the Communist Party four times that I truly found my attachment : the heart of fighting. It has been deeply rooted in me for many years. Sometimes it comes out without my even knowing it.　　　

　　When I looked within, I found that when I talked to my husband, I always had an unyielding attitude and challenging tone of voice. I had not had a heart-to-heart conversation with him since he had returned from prison. Although I tolerated him superficially, I looked down on him in my heart. I thought, "You are dependent on my salary, but now you want to control me. If I were not a practitioner, I would have divorced you."　　

　　With this kind of thinking I could not really care for him or think well of him. Usually he did the grocery shopping and bought the vegetables, but when he got home, I was always unhappy with what he had bought. Understandably, this agitated him. One time he spent nearly 100 yuan to buy a bouquet for my birthday. I not only did not thank him, but I also complained that he had spent too much money. He was initially very happy but became depressed after that.　　　

　　In retrospect, all of this was my fault. I had always wanted to be strong. Before cultivation, I had the nickname "Superwoman" and would never yield to others. After beginning my cultivation, although I could tolerate fellow practitioners and friends, I could not do it at home. My behavior was far from the standard of a practitioner. How could I achieve "Truthfulness, Compassion, Forbearance?" My cultivation state varied all the time.　　　

　　A fellow practitioner said that there are no shortcuts in cultivation and only by studying the Fa well can we look within, change ourselves, and improve. If we are not compassionate with our family members who have shortcomings, it is as if we are not cultivating. His words inspired me.　　　

　　Once I found my attachment, I changed my attitude. Now　I see my husband's strong points and my own shortcomings. I care for him and am more considerate. Because of my change of heart, my husband has changed his attitude toward me and toward Falun Dafa. Initially he claimed that he would send me to the Public Security Bureau. Now he has come to understand and support Dafa. He often helps me to buy tapes, repair the tape recorder, and maintain the Dafa books. So that I could study the Fa at night, he bought several desk lamps and clamped one to the bed. On "World Falun Dafa Day," he ordered a cake with three white lotus lowers on top because his mother, myself, and our granddaughter are all practitioners.　　　

　　While I was writing this article, I asked my husband to buy some paper. He forgot and only remembered it once he got home. He then went back out to get it. he change in his attitude has made the whole family happy and has positively influenced our daughter. She bought me a cell phone for Dafa work. hey all withdrew from the Chinese Communist Party, too.　　　

　　My cultivation environment is becoming better and better, and I have come to a deeper understanding of Master Li's teachings.