The Changes in My Husband and Me
(Clearwisdom.net) I began practicing Falun Gong in 1996, and at the time my husband was firmly against my practicing. However, all of my immediate family members are practicing Falun Gong now. My experience is that if we believe in Master and the Fa, then everything will be fine with Master's help. We must firmly cultivate within Master's arrangements and our "xinxing" and the environment will improve step by step.
After I began practicing Falun Gong, all of my illnesses disappeared and I was full of energy. However, I was disturbed that my husband did not support my cultivation. I had to do all the housework before I studied the Fa and did the exercises with my child outdoors. I thought this was a reflection of my level and an opportunity to improve. Thus, I toiled on silently.
However, I could not allow it when my husband disparaged Falun Dafa. I had thought this opposition to Falun Gong was his thoughts at the time, but I forgot that he was practicing other qigong and this would affect his understanding. I told him to read Zhuan Falun several times, and each time he said that he had already read it. In reality, he was interfered with because of practicing other forms of qigong. Master talked about how Master's law bodies did not enter a practitioner's home because of other qigong books in the practitioner's home. Although I had been practicing for seven years, due to my qing, I did not throw out these qigong books, and those bad things were harming my husband and affecting me, as well.
In the spring of 2005, I threw out all of those qigong books and sent righteous thoughts to help him forget about those things. After that, he listened to me when I clarified the truth about Falun Gong to him. As a part of the Fa-rectification process, material production centers were established all over China. I had established such a center as well, as my husband worked out of town and came home only on the weekends. Before my husband understood the facts about Falun Gong, I had to hide the printer on the weekends, and I felt ashamed about doing this.
I often felt regret for my husband because he had not understood the truth because of the Chinese Communist Party's (CCP) slander against Falun Gong on television. He believed that the messages behind the CCP's slander against Falun Gong were his own thoughts. I told him all about Falun Gong, and about how my parents and sisters also practiced Falun Gong, as well as other family members. None of us gave up clarifying the truth about Falun Gong to him. Although sometimes we were disappointed in him that we could not help him understand the truth, we patiently and repeatedly clarified the truth to him. Recently, he quit the Young Pioneers and the Communist Youth League. Afterwards, he also read Zhuan Falun. He expressed regret that he did not listen to the truth earlier and did not begin practicing Falun Gong until the summer of 2005.
My husband had never done housework in the past. I am a Fa-rectification period Falun Dafa disciple. With the exception of work, I believed that I should take care of my child and do the three things as I should. My time was tight everyday, but I did not ask him to do any housework when he was not a practitioner. I felt that I should do the best I could because I am a Dafa disciple. But, after he began practicing Falun Gong, I thought that he should do some of the housework, too, and show how he thinks about others. I would sometimes nag him about it. He took this as an opportunity to upgrade his xinxing and was not angry at me, but he still did not do any housework. I was disturbed by this for a long time. Sometimes, I would think, "Master had told us about cooperating, so why can we not do it well?"
My biggest problem was that I did not allow anyone to talk about my shortcomings and I got angry any time someone did that. My husband told me several times about this problem, and Master talks about this type of problem in "Teaching the Fa in the City of Los Angeles." It was then that I realized I should change.
During this process, I realized that I had an incorrect thought in my understanding. I needed to look inward and be thoughtful towards others, and this was a different standard than that followed by ordinary people. These requirements are there for every practitioner to correct him or herself, but we should not demand things of others in this regard.
After I realized this, I saw that I was upset about it, and I needed to look inward. Why had I not looked inward to find my own problem? A practitioner's mind should be peaceful and compassionate.
When I realized these things, my husband became actively involved in housework and we cooperated to do the three things well. In this process, both of us have had many shortcomings, but I believe that we will correct our problems soon. We should follow our path with Master's words to lead us back to our original home.