Use Gentleness against Firmness
(Clearwisdom.net) A Falun Dafa practitioner who began the practice only three months ago told me her cultivation story. It really touched me. I wrote it down to encourage other practitioners.
Practitioner Xiaorui was one of my elementary and high school classmates. We were good friends. Before 1999 I gave her the precious book Zhuan Falun. She believed that Dafa was very good. Although at that time she did not go on the cultivation path, her mother did.
Xiaorui's marriage was not harmonious. The couple argued often, almost to the point of a divorce. After a few years of this unhappy marriage she become weary, both physically and mentally. In the summer of 2006 she brought their child to her mother's home. I happened to be home also for summer vacation. We had the chance to be together and talked about Dafa. This time she walked on the cultivation path with determination, participated in group-study, and went with other practitioners to clarify the truth, distributing truth clarification materials.
The biggest problem confronting her was how to handle her unhappy marriage. After a period of time of studying the Fa, fellow practitioners focused on Master's teachings regarding the issue of marriage. They discussed this with her and she realized that this was a problem to be faced, instead of to be avoided, and she had to try her best to harmonize the family.
After staying at her mother's home for less than a month, her husband came to pick her up and they returned home. She had one request of her husband: He must let her study the Fa and practice cultivation.
Her husband had been badly poisoned by the evil Communist Party. He didn't even want to look at the truth clarification materials and even said to their child such things as: "Because your mom practices the exercises, she will kill you."
Her husband managed with great effort to agree to her request while still away from home, but regretted having agreed to this condition right after he got home. She still steadfastly said, "For as long as I live, I will practice. Even if you put a knife to my neck, I will still practice. Everything else is up to you."
Her husband kept silent and didn't say another word. Xiaorui realized that she must do well. She liked to sleep late before and only got up after her husband had finished preparing breakfast. Now she got up at 4:30 a.m., practiced the standing exercises, prepared breakfast, and waited for her husband to get up. Her husband said, "If you don't practice the exercises, I will still make a meal for you every day. You don't need to cook." Xiaorui wasn't persuaded. She saw the expression in her husband's eyes as that of an enemy.
Another time, when she was practicing the sitting meditation, her husband said that she was shameless. Xiaorui didn't say a word, only stared at his face and send forth righteous thoughts. After a while her husband said the way she had stared at him made him afraid.
On another occasion four characters clearly appeared in Xiaorui's mind: "Use gentleness against firmness." Xiaorui said it was Master who gave her a hint. She was excited and thought, "I must do well and not disappoint Master."
Xiaorui was previously introverted, narrow minded, and easily upset. She got upset before her husband got mad. Now, no matter how her husband yells at her, she can smile and has shown much consideration for her husband. Their home environment has improved greatly. She raised her level very quickly.
Since Xiaorui found there were few practitioners in their region and it was difficult to let people know the truth of Falun Dafa, she asked us to help her to clarify the truth well in her area.
We are extremely happy, because now that Xiaorui has stepped onto the cultivation path, many more beings will be offered salvation.
Oct. 7, 2006