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Eliminating My Selfishness

July 16, 2025 |   By a Falun Dafa practitioner in Liaoning Province, China

(Minghui.org) I began practicing Falun Dafa before the persecution started in 1999, and I’ve come through smoothly under Master’s compassionate care. I’m grateful to Master for giving me this precious opportunity to become a practitioner and for his benevolent salvation.

After my son got married and had his son, my daily routine was disrupted. My daughter-in-law’s mother passed away, so the responsibility of taking care of my grandson fell on me. I couldn’t keep up with cooking, cleaning, studying the Fa and practicing the exercises every day. After five months, I felt anxious and distressed.

I told my son, “You and your wife should move back to your home, and I’ll take care of my grandson.” He understood. But my daughter-in-law didn’t want to move out. I said, “You can come here after work to see the child, and then leave after dinner.” They agreed. So when my grandson was asleep, I studied the Fa, practiced the exercises, and sent righteous thoughts.

As my grandson got older, conflicts in the family emerged. My daughter-in-law didn’t want to take care of her child or cook meals. My grandson went to school and still lived in my home. My daughter-in-law sometimes came to help her son with homework, but after she did a little she would quarrel with him, which made our family chaotic. I was upset, thinking: she came here to make trouble. The child was in school, but she didn’t take him home and relied on me for everything. I was annoyed with her and looked down on her.

My grandson understood Dafa is good. When he saw Master’s portrait, he said, “Master, How are you?” Sometimes he listened to Master’s lectures with me. However, once he started going to school, he was contaminated by society’s big dye vat and learned to play video games. I talked to him, but he wouldn’t listen, which made me angry and stressed.

My body was not in an appropriate state and I sometimes had chest pain. I discussed it with my daughter-in-law and said, “The child is grown, and I can’t take care of him anymore. You should take him home.” She didn’t respond. It seemed she just didn’t want to take care of him. She had two dogs, and when she came to have dinner with us in the evening, she brought them with her.

This was too much! My complaints, grievances, and resentments all came out and I thought: “Since you first came into my home, you haven’t cooked a meal, and you haven’t taken care of your child for a single day. I had to take on all the things that are your responsibility. You occupied my time and delayed many things I should have done!”

After calming down and thinking it over carefully, I began to re-examine myself: Why did I encounter these things? “Self” appeared in my mind. It was Master who enlightened me. I was shocked: My deep-seated selfishness was exposed. On the surface, I wanted to progress in cultivation, but I was entangled in family trivialities.

I did so much, but it might have been the result of my needing to repay a karmic debt. Isn’t my daughter-in-law behaving this way to expose my attachments? Isn’t she providing me with an opportunity to improve? Aren’t all the things I encounter in cultivation for my improvement? I should make good use of this opportunity, and thank her.

Thank you, Master, for your enlightenment, which allowed me to find my selfishness which I was unaware of. I want to root it out. The new universe is selfless, I’m a cultivator, and I must be a good person in society and at home.

I worked on changing my mindset by studying the Fa more when I had time. When I did housework, I listened to practitioners’ sharing articles and sent righteous thoughts to eliminate my negative thoughts. My human notions and attachments gradually faded, my xinxing improved, and the environment at home became better. My son took the initiative to bring his son home, and my daughter-in-law cooked for him in the morning. I now greet my daughter-in-law warmly every day when she comes over for dinner. Cultivation is so wonderful and miraculous!

My husband once wanted to eat dumplings, so I poured cooking oil into a large pan and heated it up. When the oil started boiling, I felt sick and wanted to vomit. At the same time, I experienced chest tightness and discomfort. I quickly sent righteous thoughts: “I’m Master Li Hongzhi’s student. I don’t want or acknowledge any other arrangements. I completely deny the old forces’ interference, and I only follow the path arranged by Master. My deficiencies in cultivation will be corrected in Dafa. You old forces are persecuting me, which is a crime against Dafa and practitioners. I send righteous thoughts to eliminate you!” After a while, my body gradually returned to normal, and I continued to do what I should do.

I’m grateful to Master for not giving up on me. In the future, I will study the Fa more, look inward, remove my attachments, truly improve in the Fa, and follow the correct path arranged by Master. I will return home with him.

Thank you Master! Thank you Dafa! Thank you fellow practitioners!