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Dafa Changed My Husband’s Heart

Feb. 11, 2024 |   By Xiaolian, a Falun Dafa practitioner in China

(Minghui.org) When I was growing up, my parents fought a lot, and it made me uncomfortable and nervous. My wish when I grew up was to be a person that could influence and affect the people around me in a good way.

The Cultural Revolution lasted from elementary to high school. I did not learn anything about China’s traditional culture and was instilled with atheism. I did not know why people could not get along, and I had no idea of the karmic reasons behind things. I was timid and worried about the world.

I went to babysit for my uncle when I was 20. He and his wife often quarreled. I did not know what to do, and it made me cry. Eventually they divorced.

When it came to marriage, I thought I should find someone worse off than me. If I treated him with respect, kindness, and love, I might have a peaceful marriage. That did not happen—it was the opposite of what I’d hoped for.

My kindness and patience were viewed as weakness and vulnerability, and my life after marriage was far from good. I lost confidence in my husband and in life. I was miserable and felt life was not worth living. And I was only in my 30s.

Then, when I began practicing Falun Dafa, I understood that the purpose of coming to this world is not to pursue a good life but to return to one’s original self and seek the truth of life. I also understood why our lives could be so difficult and miserable. The relationships between people all have karmic reasons behind them, and the causal karmic debts were accumulated over many lifetimes. Falun Dafa made me feel I was reborn, and I became more cheerful.

When the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) began persecuting Falun Dafa in July 1999, it put tremendous pressure on my family. Because I refused to give up my faith, my husband and my siblings put me into a psychiatric hospital. My husband was out of control and watched me closely. As soon as he saw me start to do the exercises, he would grab my hair and beat me.

Once my husband got drunk and dragged me to the police station, claiming that he wanted to report me for practicing Falun Dafa. When the police saw that he was drunk, they threw us out.

I left home to avoid the abuse and worked out of town for many years as a nanny or a caregiver. When I returned to town, I did not go home but stayed with my mother instead. When my husband found out, he called the police and reported me. I was arrested and held in the detention center. I thought there was no hope for my husband.

We were taking care of our daughter’s child in 2022 when my husband didn’t feel well and went to the hospital. He was diagnosed with late-stage pancreatic cancer that was inoperable. After the New Year holiday, he wanted to return home.

I decided to tell him the facts about Dafa again, but how? Master said that everyone in the world was once Master's relative. Since he was my husband, I had to try to save him. But no matter how I tried, he refused to listen.

“I’m dying, and you are still talking about this. I haven’t listened to you for over 20 years and will not listen now,” he said.

Other family members said, “Let him be. He has the worst form of cancer and there is no cure for it. Let him do whatever he wants now.” My husband said the pain was unimaginable and unbearable. He was glued to his cell phone, and a headache was now added to the pain he was suffering. I asked Master to save him, and I began sending righteous thoughts towards him.

I suggested he read or watch something to help him alleviate his pain. “Like what?” he asked.

I gave him some stories about traditional culture and other things from Minghui to listen to such as the Nine Commentaries on the Communist Party. While listening to it, he exclaimed, “Communists are so bad!” He continued to listen to The Ultimate Purpose of Communism and The Real Story of Jiang Zemin.

Gradually my husband started to look better and had more energy. Then he said, “I want to read your book!”

“You must first declare on Minghui that all the words and deeds you have said and done to attack Dafa or Master are null and void and ask for Master's forgiveness. Only then can you read the book,” I said.

He asked me to help him write a Solemn Statement for the Minghui website. Then he began to read Falun Gong and wanted to do the exercises.

I studied the Dafa teachings and did the exercises with him every day. He also joined us when other practitioners came to study the teachings or share their experiences.

My husband's mind and body underwent tremendous changes. An unreasonable, impatient, violent individual was replaced by a kind, peaceful, and rational person full of righteous thoughts.

Watching the changes in my husband filled my heart with infinite gratitude to Master. I spent most of my life trying to make my loved one better, but in vain. The principles of Falun Dafa, however, in such a short period of time, changed a person who was unreasonable and impossible into a good person, a better person, and a cultivator right before my very eyes.