(Minghui.org) I am fortunate that my family of three practice Falun Dafa. Nevertheless, conflicts and frictions often arise in our family.

I’m easy-going and even-tempered. My husband is impatient and hot-tempered, and my son is introverted and doesn’t like to express his thoughts.

Often, when my husband tried to talk with my son, he got upset when my son was not responsive. I would then protect my son, which led to conflicts with my husband. Moreover, I considered myself to be the calmer person, what I said was usually right, and I expected my husband to accept my suggestions and correct himself. I was disappointed and disgruntled when he didn’t listen to me.

This situation lasted a long time, until I joined the RTC Platform (a website where Falun Dafa practitioners call people in China to tell them about the persecution and encourage them to quit the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) and its youth organizations). Being a part of this project helped my cultivation.

When I first joined the platform, practitioners explained the training materials with patience and calm. I sensed peace and tranquility when I listened to their cultivation experiences, and felt encouraged to communicate with them. I was able to see their selfless and compassionate heart, and it reminded me of what Master said:

“The Buddha-light illuminates everywhere and harmonizes everything.” (Lecture Three, Zhuan Falun)

During the eight-day training session, besides the trainers, I met many other practitioners. I benefited greatly from their cultivation experiences, and I learned to look inward. I realized I only cared about my own feelings, discovered my emotional attachment to my family, and I noticed the interference from thought karma.

Therefore, when I had conflicts later on, I asked Master for help: “I don’t want these attachments. I’m a Dafa practitioner and should treat everyone with compassion. Please help me harmonize everything.” This became my approach when I encountered problems, and the familial frictions lessened significantly. We now get along better, my son seems happier, and my husband is more gentle.

I would also like to share four practitioners’ cultivation experiences that left a deep impression on me and helped me improve.

The first practitioner shared her experience of calling people in China. She talked to the same person five times and was chided each time she called. She still treated him with compassion and just wanted to awaken him. Finally, the person was moved, quit the CCP, and thanked the practitioner. She described her experience in just a few short sentences, but I felt her pure and compassionate heart. Her kindness made me feel at peace, and I only had one thought: “I want to be as compassionate as her and help more people.”

The second practitioner talked about how she helped another Dafa practitioner overcome sickness karma. The practitioner wasn’t able to get rid of sickness karma for a long period of time and was eventually bedridden. Many practitioners went to her home to send forth righteous thoughts to clear away the bad elements that affected her. Several days passed and her situation got worse.

Thus, everyone looked inward and the practitioner’s situation improved a bit. After that, everyone looked inward every day, and the practitioner recovered several days later.

Ever since then, the second practitioner looked inward whenever she encountered problems and discovered her shortcomings. She rectified herself right away, sent righteous thoughts to get rid of the bad thoughts, and the problems were resolved.

The above two cases made me realize that the only way to raise my xinxing is to truly look inward, so that I can cultivate a heart of great compassion.

The third practitioner said that when her state of mind was not good, it affected her ability to clarify the truth to people. She thought we should send righteous thoughts before talking to people and speak with kindness. A peaceful field can bring out people’s heart of compassion, making it easier to awaken them.

The fourth practitioner talked about another practitioner’s experience. The practitioner’s father-in-law had mental issues, and often defecated outside of the toilet. One day he defecated in the living room, and the practitioner got very upset.

The practitioner’s sister was visiting at the time. When she complained to her sister, who’s also a practitioner, her sister said, “Isn’t this your ladder to heaven?” The practitioner didn’t say anything and cleaned up the mess.

I thought that the sister was right. We often have conflicts with others, including practitioners. If we see every conflict as a “ladder to heaven,” wouldn’t it be easier to pass the test?

When I looked inward, I realized the Master used people and events to enlightened me and help me improve. Thus, when I encounter conflicts I immediately look inward to find my shortcomings, send righteous thoughts to reject the bad thoughts, and ask Master for help. And the problems are resolved.

I’m grateful for Master’s deliverance and I thank Master for enlightening me.

This is my limited understanding. Please point out anything that is not in line with the Fa.