(Minghui.org) The day before the winter solstice, my elder sister called me and asked me to buy some sweet dumplings and bring them over to her house. So I went and we chatted for a while. My sister brought up a quarrel between us sisters and our brother that happened two months ago. She said, “I thought it was over and I no longer talked about it. But some people are still upset about it.”
I thought that since my sister took the initiative to mention it, I would explain and clear things up. I didn’t expect that talking about it would reveal my attachments.
Master said,
As a cultivatorOne always looks for one’s own faults’Tis the Way to get rid of attachments most effectivelyThere’s no way to skip ordeals, big or small[During a conflict, if you can remember:]“He’s right,And I’m wrong,”What’s to dispute?” (Hong Yin III)
My sister was acting as a reflection of my long-buried attachments. My sister was acting as a mirror, clearly showing me my attachments.
I felt in low spirits after I got home and couldn’t lift myself up. My child, a little practitioner, asked me, “Mom, are you in a bad mood?” I answered, “A little bit.”
After reading the Fa in the evening, I shared my experience with my little practitioner, who responded in a serious tone, “Look within. Go study the Fa. How could anyone hold onto grudges for so many years?” I was stunned. Right! How could anyone hold grudges for so many years?
Things from the past that I had never mentioned to anyone had been churned up again because of what my sister said. After looking within, I found attachments of resentment, competitiveness, the attachment of blaming others, enjoying being angry, and not wanting to be criticized. Just as I slowly found these attachments, a cloud of black qi above my head instantly dissipated and the area became bright. My heart felt at ease.