(Minghui.org) I used to be very sick, and I had to take medicine or get injections at least once a month. Since I began practicing Falun Dafa 14 years ago, all my illnesses have vanished.
When I began to cultivate, my husband, who is a teacher, became a different person. He was unreasonable and would even run away when we had an argument.
I realized those were all opportunities to improve my xinxing, and, in the beginning, I could pass those tests. He treated me very unreasonably, but I was nice to him, and I even felt proud of myself for passing those tribulations.
As Master Li said, however:
“But normally when a problem arises, if it does not irritate you psychologically, it does not count or is useless and cannot make you improve.” (Lecture Four, Zhuan Falun)
In reality, I actually felt hurt every time we fought and did not measure myself with Dafa's principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance.
Even though I kept quiet most of the time, I held in a lot of resentment for my husband.
This lasted quite a long time and put a great strain on our relationship. He complained about Dafa and got angry every time I broached the topic.
He once even tore up a Dafa book. I was so hurt when I saw Master's damaged picture. I cried and realized how serious cultivation is. If I turned into an ordinary person, my family would have no hope.
Master Li said:
“So everything that you do, be it your balancing well your family relationships while you live among ordinary people, balancing well your relationships in society, how you perform at your workplace, how you conduct yourself in society, etc., none of these are things you can just go through the motions on. All of these are part of your cultivation format, and are serious matters.” (“Teaching the Fa in Canada, 2006,” Collected Fa Teachings, Vol. VII)
I decided to become serious about my cultivation and recover my losses.
From then on, I cultivated myself by paying attention to the small things as well. When my husband traveled, I took care of our child and worked in the meantime. I also eliminated my tendency to complain during this time.
I repeated Master's Fa:
“A wicked person is born of jealousy. Out of selfishness and anger he complains about unfairness towards himself. A benevolent person always has a heart of compassion. With no discontentment or hatred, he takes hardship as joy. An enlightened person has no attachments at all. He quietly observes the people of the world deluded by illusions.(“Realms,” Essentials for Further Advancement)
Gradually, my attitude towards my husband changed. When we had a conflict, I thought about Master said, “When it’s difficult to endure, you can endure it. When it’s impossible to do, you can do it.” (Lecture Nine, Zhuan Falun)
I first forced myself to remain calm or go out for a walk. I then did not want to argue.
Eventually, I didn't feel mad at all and paid attention to how I spoke. I also did my best while doing housework and bought gifts for my in-laws who used to get involved when my husband and I fought.
Additionally, I asked my child to call his grandparents more often. In the meantime, I sent forth righteous thoughts to eliminate my complaints and resentment.
It took quite a while until I was finally able to let go of those attachments from deep down inside. That process really allowed me to understand “Forbearance” at different levels.
As I improved, my husband changed a lot. He remained scared, however, by the Chinese Communist Party (CCP)'s persecution and avoided learning the truth about Dafa.
I took this opportunity to read traditional stories to my child to help him understand how to respect God and follow the principles to be a good person.
Dafa practitioners hold onto their faith and insist on being compassionate. When they are treated unreasonably, they are still forgiving and even try to help those people. This is honorable behavior!
I then encouraged my husband to cultivate his character in his role as a teacher. When someone sent him a gift, I explained the principle of loss and gain. He now has righteous thoughts about Dafa and tries to teach his students about “Forbearance.”
He was finally also willing to read the unbiased news from overseas. He has changed from being selfish and impatient to someone who is honest and humble.
His students also seem to do well, even though they come to his class with poor grades in other courses.
Master said:
“So in other words, don’t underestimate this world and its people. Dafa disciples aren’t the only ones “cultivating” or working on themselves; others are doing the same, in a sense. They are being tempered as well. As people lead their lives and go about their jobs, wherever they may be, and deal with things, think about things, and act in this world, they are all making choices—in the contest between good and evil—that will impact their future.” (“2018 Fa Teaching Given in Washington, D.C.”)
Category: Improving Oneself
