(Minghui.org) My husband works in a factory and is an alcoholic. When he drinks, his temper flares up. He often comes home drunk and hits me. I try to defend myself but he is stronger than me. Sometimes, when he's asleep I would still be so angry over his abuse that I would hit him and bite him.
Over time I developed heart disease, lower back pain, and other ailments due to the stress.
After I began to practice Falun Dafa, my ailments gradually disappeared and I began to tolerate my husband better. When he abused me, I kept quiet and didn't fight back.
We went to visit one of his coworkers one day. While I was talking to the couple, for no apparent reason my husband began to abuse me. The couple tried to stop him, but he wouldn't listen to them.
This couple's daughter asked me why I remained quiet and didn't fight back. I told her it was because I practice Falun Dafa and thus would not argue with him. My words seemed righteous, but deep down I still believed that was I being wronged.
On our way home, I kept thinking about the principles taught by Master Li Hongzhi, Falun Dafa's founder. I realized that, for a cultivator, nothing is by chance, but rather a xinxing test. I needed to behave like a true practitioner with higher moral standards.
To be afraid of losing face is an everyday person's attachment. As a cultivator, I need to cast that off completely. Maybe I owed my husband something from my previous life, so I need to pay the debt back this time.
I started to calm down as I thought about this. When we got home, I apologized to him. I told him that if he thinks that I did something wrong, he should point it out to me so I can correct my behavior. My husband was very surprised to hear me say this.
I told him, “I am a cultivator and will not behave as I did before I practiced Falun Dafa. I will not fight with you anymore.” He was touched and has since changed his behavior towards me.
Whenever we have had conflicts since then, I have looked within to correct myself in line with the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance.
My husband also benefited from my practice. There were growths all over the bottom of his foot that made it painful and difficult for him to walk.
He told me of his discomfort. I talked to Master in my mind, “Please help my husband. His behavior has improved.”
Several days later he washed his feet and was surprised to see that the growths were all gone. “Amazing,” he said, “Your master is truly great!” Master had removed his karma and cleansed his body.
After he experienced the wonderfulness of Dafa, he wholeheartedly supported me practicing it. He even helps with the household chores.
I went to a community building to hand out Falun Dafa informational materials one time, while he waited outside. Then he turned to me and said, “Give me some flyers. I'll help you distribute them.”
He told his co-workers and neighbors that Falun Dafa is very good and that his wife had changed her bad temper. He said that, no matter how poorly he behaves, I no longer fight with him.
His co-workers also commented that they could tell I had changed and was now a better person. One of our neighbors urged his wife to learn Falun Dafa from me.
My husband and I would probably be divorced by now, if I hadn't learned Falun Dafa. It has taught me to be considerate of others, treat everyone with kindness, and to always look within. Dafa improved my personality completely.