(Minghui.org) When I talked to my husband yesterday, I casually said something that made him angry. I was annoyed, but thought, “Forget it, I should cultivate myself. I talk too much.”
I made another offhand comment today, and he got angry again and spoke to me in a rude tone. I thought, I didn’t say anything inappropriate, why is he angry again? I was also a little angry at first, so I said, “I can’t say anything to you.”
After I calmed down I thought: I used to be quiet and never got involved or commented on things others talked about. I’m older now, so why am I so talkative? When I saw something I thought was unfair, I had the urge to get involved and comment or say something unpleasant. I just opened my mouth and commented. I wasn’t “minding my speech” or acting like a practitioner.
I studied the Fa every day, but did I use the Fa to reflect on my words and deeds and cultivate myself? If I don’t look inward and cultivate myself, over time, this attachment of wanting to speak will become worse. When it grows to the point where it has a person’s image, is it possible that this false self can manipulate a practitioner to do things that don’t meet the standards of a cultivator? What’s the difference between this and being “possessed”? To put it mildly, it’s not cultivating oneself. But we are Falun Dafa practitioners in the Fa-rectification period, and our words and deeds represent more than just ourselves. To put it even more seriously, doesn’t this cause people to have a bad opinion of Falun Dafa?
When I realized this, I immediately looked inward. I should only say what I need to say. Maybe something I said unintentionally hurt others. This is true when my attachments are strong and manipulate me.
I realized from the bottom of my heart the importance of “minding your speech”. Just this little bit of improvement caused me to feel different when I meditated the next morning. My mind was especially calm—it hadn’t felt so calm for a long time. It was an indescribable wonderful feeling.
I realized that if we improve even a little bit, our bodies change a lot. In this limited time that Master extended by enduring so much for us and sentient beings, we should work together to improve ourselves and form a habit: when we encounter issues we should unconditionally look inward and improve ourselves, so that Master won’t have so much to worry about.
My cultivation level is low, so please kindly point out anything I’ve said that’s inappropriate.