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Cultivating Compassion and Treating My Mother-in-law with Kindness

Dec. 20, 2025 |   By a Falun Dafa practitioner in Shandong Province, China

(Minghui.org) I began practicing Falun Dafa in 1998, and I’m now 61 years old. I’m deeply grateful to Master Li for giving me a new life. For over 20 years, I haven’t had the need to take a single pill or received any injections, but I’m healthy. I study the Fa, do the exercises, and follow the principles of Truthfulness, Compassion, and Forbearance. When conflicts arise, I look within. I don’t worry about personal loss or gain and try to place others’ interests first.

Receiving Heaven’s Blessing

I grew up in the countryside, and was weak and often sick when I was young. Because I was introverted and lacked confidence, I was not good at talking. After I finished middle school, I got a temporary job in the city. I married at the age of 25. But the good days didn’t last long. Six years later, when I was 32, my husband died of lung cancer. I couldn’t stop crying. My child was so young, and I felt my life was unbearably bitter. I wondered how I would survive.

My husband had four brothers, and he was the youngest. My four sisters-in-law were all good talkers, and my mother-in-law was known for being fierce. I was weak, honest, and not good at dealing with people, so they often excluded and looked down on me. I knew they wanted to drive me away. Later, my mother-in-law stopped helping me with the child. When my child needed food, my in-laws still demanded living expenses from me. Once, my father-in-law even rammed his head into me. My mouth bled, but I didn’t dare say a word. I held everything inside and often felt so upset that I had no appetite.

My health was already poor, and after childbirth I had lingering illnesses, such as lower back pain, headaches, frozen shoulder, and pelvic infections. With no other choice, I took my five-year-old son to sell fruit on the street by myself. I developed rhinitis from the cold. Life was truly bitter and exhausting, with one hardship after another.

Heaven’s blessing came at my most difficult time. Someone told me how good Falun Dafa is. My son said, “Mom, practice it. Master will look after us. Then we won’t need to be afraid of anything. How great is that!” I took a copy of the book Zhuan Falunhome to read.

After I read 16 pages my hands became hot. I looked up and saw a bright ball of light enter my body. Then, my lower abdomen began to move. I was frightened and put the book down. Now I realize how foolish I was. I later learned that Master installed a Falun in me. That was how I obtained the Fa.

The next morning, I followed others to do the exercises. When I did the second exercise, “Falun Standing Stance,” I felt nauseous and started vomiting, then I fainted and was unconscious for more than 10 minutes. Fellow practitioners helped me up and said it was a good thing, as Master was taking care of me. From then on, I studied the Fa and did the exercises, doing what the book teaches. When conflicts arose, I looked inward and let go of worldly grievances. I realized that whether others treated me well or badly, there was a reason behind it.

Through continuous Fa study and exercises, I came to understand that the true purpose of being human is to return to our original, true selves. In everything we do, we should think of others, not be selfish, and avoid focusing on personal gain or loss. From then on, no matter how others treated me, I no longer became angry. With the Fa in my heart, I was always cheerful. As my xinxing improved, all my illnesses disappeared without me even realizing it—truly miraculous.

Treating My Mother-in-law with Kindness

I thank Master and Dafa for giving me a healthy body and teaching me to be a good person. As the saying goes, “Filial piety comes first among all virtues,” so I held myself to the standard of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance. I gave the better house, the one facing the street that could have been rented out, to my mother-in-law. I took my child and moved into an old mud-and-straw house that had been empty for years. The back wall had no window, and water leaked in on rainy days. I pedaled a tricycle to haul cement and wood planks and repaired the house myself, changing it to a tile roof. I only hoped it wouldn’t leak and could be lived in. In winter the water in the washbasin froze, and in summer it was unbearably hot. My son and I lived like that for 25 years. The house was so low that my tall son had to bend down every time he entered or left. People felt sorry for me and thought it unfair. My mother-in-law kept all the rental income from our original house and never gave me or my child any money, but I never complained.

In the earlier years, my mother-in-law often fell ill and would be hospitalized several times a year. Each time, I was the only one looking after her. She didn’t want to eat hospital food, so I went home to cook what she liked and took it to her. I cleaned her bedpan, put on her shoes, washed her feet, and more. When she pushed her leftovers into my bowl, I didn’t mind.

The elderly lady in the next bed was cared for by her daughter. She told my mother-in-law, “Look how nice your daughter is. My daughter won’t even eat anything I’ve touched, not even half a steamed bun.” Her daughter felt embarrassed.

My mother-in-law replied, “She is my daughter-in-law.” Everyone in the room was stunned, and the mother and daughter across from us stared at us with wide eyes.

No matter which hospital she stayed in, everyone always thought I was her daughter. Some even asked me, “Did she only have one child, you?” “You take such good care of her.”

I responded, “My Master taught me well. I practice Falun Dafa.” Everyone in the room looked at me with admiration, and my mother-in-law smiled with satisfaction. Sometimes, when she was happy, she called me “my child.” When we left the hospital, eight people learned the facts about the persecution, and I gave each of them a truth-clarifying booklet.

My mother-in-law benefited a lot from Dafa. Thanks to Dafa, I cared for her wholeheartedly, following the standards of a cultivator, and I never felt annoyed. On the day before the Qingming Festival in 2021, to remember the dead, I bathed her and cut her hair so she could spend the holiday clean and refreshed. While watching TV, she suddenly fell ill and passed away six days later, at the age of 95. If I had not practiced Dafa, honestly speaking, there is no way I, a widowed mother with a young child, could have done all this. It was Dafa that changed me.

My Relatives Also Benefit

My aunt is 92. She became dependent on medicine in her 40s and was known as a chronically ill person. Eight years ago, she developed an illness that no major hospital could diagnose. She became extremely thin, couldn’t eat, and even IV drips were difficult because her veins collapsed. Her eldest daughter-in-law told me, “It really looks like she won’t make it this time.”

I told my aunt, “Just sincerely recite ‘Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.’ You have to say it sincerely.” She agreed. Over the years, she witnessed how my health improved and fully supported and believed in Dafa. So she recited it every day, and the more she recited, the better she felt. She regained her appetite, her energy returned, and she gained weight.

She said she couldn’t stop reciting “Dafa is good.” My aunt lives in a nursing home. She wakes up at 4:30 a.m., and the moment she opened her eyes, she would naturally start reciting “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good” until she goes to sleep. I told her that it was wonderful that it has become second nature.

One morning in March 2025, she even performed a short skit at the nursing home. When I visited her, she happily told me, “I’ve truly benefited from Dafa. I go up to the third floor, and I feel my body to be so light. I don’t feel tired at all. Everyone said I look like I’m in my 70s, not in my 90s.” After speaking, she pressed her palms together in front of her chest and sincerely said, “Thank you, Master. Thank you, Dafa.”

My older brother lives in Xinjiang. When he visited more than 10 years ago, I tried to give him truth-clarification DVDs and booklets, but he refused to take them. Ten years passed, and he returned in September 2024. He had a heart stent, and his wife (my sister-in-law) had lung cancer. Chemotherapy caused all her hair to fall out. She needed help with everything: eating, walking, and even recognizing people. She talked nonsense constantly, and her face was dark and bluish. It was frightening to see.

Seeing this broke my heart. If I hadn’t learned Dafa, I didn’t know what kind of state I would be in today. I silently asked compassionate Master to help them. Then I sincerely said to them, “Just sincerely recite ‘Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.’ A miracle will happen.” Both my brother and his wife began reciting. My brother said each phrase once, and his wife repeated the words after him.

The next day, my sister-in-law started urinating blood. She went to the restroom seven or eight times, though not much was urinated each time. My brother panicked and asked, “At home she barely ate or drank, and she hardly urinated. Why did this suddenly happen?”

I told him, “This is a good thing. Her body is expelling bad blood and harmful substances. Don’t be afraid. Master is watching over her.” And indeed, the following day she showed miraculous improvement. From that day on, she got better every day. She could eat again, and she no longer needed anyone to help her walk.

Seeing the changes in his wife, my brother happily said, “Falun Dafa is truly miraculous. No wonder that even though the government suppresses it so hard, so many people still practice it, and it is practiced around the world. This time we personally experienced a miracle. The TV propaganda really was lying.”

During the Chinese New Year holiday, my nephew video-called me to send greetings. On the screen, I saw that my sister-in-law’s hair had grown back. My brother eagerly said, “She’s getting better and better. She now recites ‘Dafa is good’ four hundred times a day.”

A relatives who saw her said, “Dafa is truly like a magical medicine. Only a few months, and such a huge change!” My brother also told them that as long as you sincerely recite “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good,” it truly works. Seeing the happiness in their whole family, I felt so glad for him. With his wife healed, the children once again have their mother—a complete family.

As I write this, I sincerely hope that every kindhearted person who has a predestined connection with Dafa, like my brother and sister-in-law, will sincerely recite “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good” whenever they face difficulties. Whoever recites it will receive blessings. This is the power of Dafa.