Dafa Gave Me a Harmonious Family

(Minghui.org) My husband and I have very different personalities and have often had conflicts over trivial family matters. I felt life was unbearable, and I repeatedly suggested we get divorced. After I started practicing Falun Dafa in 1997, I was lazy about studying the Fa and rarely read the teachings. I didn’t fully follow the Fa’s requirements, and as a result my xinxing didn’t improve much. Meanwhile, the conflicts with my husband continued.

When I Changed, So Did My Husband

I didn’t read the Fa with other practitioners when I began practicing. One day, I met a practitioner at a bus stop, and we kept in contact. When she realized I didn’t have anyone to read with, she reached out to other practitioners, and we began reading together.

Having a Fa study group provided an environment in which I could cultivate and discuss my experiences. This helped me improve my xinxing and gain deeper insights through studying the Fa more. I began to understand many of Dafa’s principles, and I was able to live by them. When I had conflicts with my husband, I looked inward and reflected on where I had fallen short.

Through continuous Fa study, I became more considerate, and genuinely cared about my husband. Whenever I made a mistake, I apologized. When I saw his shortcomings, I didn’t argue with him. Instead, I first reflected on my behavior to see if I had done anything wrong. I tried to have a positive impact through my words and actions.

Seeing the changes in me, my husband gradually became calmer and seemed like a different person. When I was busy, he voluntarily helped with the housework, cooked, washed dishes, and so on, which he hadn’t done before. In the past, when I went out to clarify the truth about the persecution, he criticized me and complained, saying I wasn’t fulfilling my responsibilities at home. But now, not only does he support me, he also helps me talk to people.

My brother-in-law was diagnosed with cancer. I tried to explain what Falun Dafa was to him, but he wasn’t receptive. My husband was anxious, and told him, “Listen to your sister-in-law.” Sometimes he urged me to go out and tell people about Falun Dafa. When I returned late, he wasn’t angry—he was concerned about my safety, and he often greeted me with a smile.

In the past, my son felt helpless because of our quarrels, but now he is happy, and our home is filled with peace and harmony.

Eliminating Resentment

I carried a lot of resentment before I began practicing. I was unaware of this, and it was only through studying the Fa that I recognized it. When my husband and I married, his mother gave us two sets of luggage, a small TV, two pieces of furniture, and bedding made from old cotton.

However, when my husband’s siblings were married, his parents gave them brand-new items, including gold and silver jewelry. Everything of value in his parents’ house was given to my sisters-in-law first—we only received the unwanted items. When my sisters-in-law and brothers-in-law had children, my mother-in-law cared for them, but when I gave birth, she didn’t even cook a single meal for me. I felt this was very unfair, and I resented my in-laws for not treating us equally.

After my husband’s mother passed away, his father came to live with us. By then, I was practicing Falun Dafa. A few years later, he fell ill. Our house was small, and only had one bedroom. My father-in-law slept on the bed while my husband and I slept on the floor and took care of him at night.

After falling ill, my father-in-law became bedridden and couldn’t speak or eat properly. I patiently took care of him, feeding him liquid meals, which took nearly two hours each time. I also prepared different kinds of food, blending them into a paste. I often told my father-in-law, “It is Dafa that has changed me. Without Dafa, I would never be able to do this.”

When I wanted to attend a relative’s wedding, I asked my sister-in-law to look after her father. She asked me to come back as soon as I gave the gift, but I explained that I would be staying longer since there were many relatives at the gathering I wanted to see. She insisted I come back immediately, so I returned after giving them the gift. Dafa taught me to be kind and considerate of others, to never hold grudges, and to treat everyone with peace and kindness.

My father-in-law was a division-level official and strongly opposed Falun Dafa due to believing the Chinese Communist Party’s lies about it. I regularly played recordings of Master’s lectures for him, and he gradually understood the facts about Dafa, and later quit the CCP and its affiliated organizations. When guests came over, he would give a thumbs-up and proudly say that Dafa is good, thus choosing a bright future for himself.

My father-in-law lived with us for five years, and I looked after him without fearing hardship. He often expressed his deep gratitude and gave me a thumbs-up. When he passed away, my relatives praised my care and dedication.

I am deeply grateful to Master for his compassionate salvation.