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Improving My Cultivation While Taking Care of My Granddaughter

Oct. 22, 2025 |   By a Falun Dafa practitioner in China

(Minghui.org) My little granddaughter has listened to the Fa since she was young, and can recite dozens of poems from Master’s Hong Yin. Dafa has taken root in her heart. She’s the first one to choose pictures for the greeting cards for Master every year, and says she is a young practitioner and wants to see the card being sent.

My granddaughter was born in 2018. Her mother had a six month maternity leave, and I still worked at the time. It was agreed that my daughter’s in-laws would take care of the baby, but I ended up taking care of her.

Originally I didn’t approve of my youngest daughter’s marriage because her husband’s family was very poor. His mother had high blood pressure and high blood sugar, and had to take medicine. She also underwent brain surgery a few years ago, and she and her husband did not have health insurance. My son-in-law works in the same unit as my daughter, but earns less.

Master said,

“You are unable to interfere with the lives of others, and neither can you control others’ fates, including those of your wife, sons, daughters, parents, or brothers.” (Lecture Four, Zhuan Falun)

So I stopped expressing my opinion. I only had one request for my daughter, “I won't take care of your children.”

My daughter replied, “Absolutely not.” After attending their wedding I quietly resumed working.

I’m a single mom and I raised two daughters by myself for over 20 years. Now I’m in my 60s, and receive only 200 yuan pension a month. For most people my age, life would be very difficult. But now that I have learned the Fa of the universe, I understand the karmic relationships between people. I know that I suffered in past lifetimes so I could practice Falun Dafa today. The pain others caused me are the debts I owed them in past lives. Dafa resolved all my grievances. I no longer resent anyone or anything. I happily do what I’m supposed to do every day. I have no illnesses. I’m on the path to divinity, returning to my true home. I’m happy from the bottom of my heart.

My younger daughter was about to return to work, and her mother-in-law came. But the mother-in-law fell ill and was hospitalized two days later. Although her condition wasn’t serious, she couldn’t take care of the child as she agreed. My daughter had to go back to work as soon as her maternity leave was over, in order not to lose more than 30,000 yuan in maternity insurance.

My daughter was so worried that canker sores appeared in her mouth. She didn’t ask me to take care of the baby, and I didn’t mention it. With only two days left, my older daughter called me and said, “Mom, please quit your job and take care of my sister’s child.”

I got angry and responded, “I can’t take care of her child. Let them figure it out themselves.”

My older daughter said, “You’re old. No matter what you do you won’t be able to work much longer. Look at my sister. She has a mortgage and car loan to pay, and a baby to feed. How will she survive if she quits her job!?”

I knew there would be no end once I started taking care of the baby, and it might impact my activities related to Falun Dafa. I said, “I have two daughters. If I help one and not the other, won’t there be trouble in the future?”

My older daughter replied, “Mom, I’m fine. If you don’t help my sister, who will? Look how anxious she is, and she doesn’t even dare to ask you. Just quit your job.”

So, I quit my office job and took care of the child. When the baby was six months old, I read the Fa to her every day, let her listen to the Fa, and practitioners’ songs and articles. She was immersed in Dafa every day.

My home is a materials production site. Since I couldn’t go out with the child, I made truth-clarification materials and printed information about Falun Dafa on money for practitioners to use. My granddaughter is very smart and active. She’s quick-witted. Before she was born, I encouraged her mother read the Fa to her.

My older daughter and I went to see the baby when she was a month old. My younger daughter said, “This child is always moaning and groaning. She’s never quiet when she’s awake.”

My older daughter picked her up and said, “Baby, is it because Mommy is always scolding you? Isn’t she trying to stop you from making noises?” The baby seemed to understand. Her lips curled, her eyes reddened, and it looked like she was about to cry.

The baby was only about 20 days old, how could she understand what adults were saying?

As the baby grew older I noticed she was close to my older daughter. When she held her, the baby relaxed. When her mother held her, she squirmed. Every time my older daughter came, she hugged and kissed the baby. If my older daughter didn’t come for a few days, the child said she missed her. When the baby was over three years old, she once slept between her mother and aunt and hugged her aunt tightly while she slept. Her mother was a little jealous and tried to hug her back, but she refused and said, “I only like my aunt, not you.”

Once, her mother asked her, “If you like your aunt, why didn’t you let your aunt be your mother?”

She replied, “I chose my aunt as my mother in Heaven. But my cousin got in front of me and was born first. I did not want to burden my aunt, so I chose you.”

I was in another room and was shocked to hear this! How could a three-year-old say this?

My little granddaughter is playful and naughty. Once, she made me angry, and I said, “I won’t take care of you anymore. You and I don’t have the same surname, so we are not related.” She told me that she looked for me in Heaven. I asked, “Why were you looking for me?” She said that she looked for me to obtain the Fa. I asked, “Then tell me how you looked for me?”

She said, “Master waved his hand and gave me a cloud. I rode on it (she made a waving gesture). I ate a marshmallow, and drifted and drifted. The ground was covered with lotus flowers, and I landed on one. I ran and ran, and finally ran into my mother’s belly. Then I came and found my grandma.”

I said she was lying. She responded, “I’m not lying.” The way she spoke didn’t sound like she was making up stories.

Sometimes when we talked about something from the past, my little granddaughter said she knew. I told her that she wasn’t even born yet. But she said, “I knew it even in my mother’s womb.” The other practitioners said this child was special and must have come to obtain the Fa. I wondered, why this child ended up in my care? If her grandmother had taken care of her, she wouldn’t be able to obtain the Fa. She utilized her grandmother’s illness to be transferred to my care.

After Master’s article “How Humankind Came To Be” was published, I read it to my granddaughter. She understood it all, and said, “It turns out that people came here to be human beings in order to return to the Heavenly Kingdom. But I haven’t cultivated well yet.”

She started crying. I urged her, “Then let’s cultivate hard and return to Heaven with Master, okay?” She agreed and stopped crying. Every night before bed, she asks me to read the Fa to her. She memorized it and pointed me out when I misread.

She recited “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good,” when she had a cold or felt bad, and she would quickly recover. Once, she had a temperature of 39.7°C. I asked her whether she should take medicine. She firmly replied, “I’ll recite ‘Falun Dafa is good,’ and Master will protect me.”

She even sent forth righteous thoughts during the kindergarten’s flag raising ceremony. Once, the flag actually fell down when it was halfway. She sent righteous thoughts and remembers people's names when I take her with me to clarify the truth.

My life revolves around the child. Sometimes, she creates tribulations for me to improve my xinxing. She’s in the last year of kindergarten, and always plays around and finishes her homework late. When I got angry, she said, “You’re a cultivator. Have you managed not to fight back when you’re hit or scolded?” When I read the Fa to her and came across the section “What is a heart of great forbearance?” (Lecture Nine, Zhuan Falun), she said, “Look at you, you get angry even when you’re managing a child.”

Sometimes, she seems to deliberately challenge my patience. If I lose control and yell at her, she’ll say, “Don’t you cultivate Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance? Why didn’t you forbear? How can you return to Heaven like this? Will Master still want you?” Sometimes, when I sent righteous thoughts and tilted my palm, or said something inappropriate, she would use the Fa to correct me, and the Fa used was just right. I often think that this child is truly here to help me cultivate. I’m not compassionate enough, and I haven’t achieved great forbearance. Perhaps Master arranged for her to help me cultivate great kindness and great forbearance.

Now I understand that it was not easy for the child to perform the way she did to help me cultivate and eliminate attachments. When I did well, she even praised me, saying, “Not bad today!” I sincerely thanked her in my heart. I shall focus on cultivating myself well and strive to meet the Fa’s requirements.

In the short time remaining, I will study the Fa more and well. I will eliminate my attachments and help Master save more people. I will live up to Master’s compassion and hard work, and return to my true home. Thank you, Master! Thank you, fellow practitioners!