(Minghui.org) I have been a Falun Dafa adherent for ten years. Before that, I was vain, and my moral values weren’t righteous. I always protected my self-interests and contended with others so I could feel superior.
After I married, I did not enjoy my life because my husband’s family background, education, and personality were different from mine. I even believed I had married the wrong person.
I once told him I was car sick after a long trip. Although I was vomiting and had a headache, he pushed me to get up and mop the floor. I was unable to do it, so he shouted at me. I, of course, argued back.
When our child was young, I had to feed him and get up at night to change his diaper. My husband did not help with anything. He played video games in bed, and the flickering light made it hard for me to sleep. I then had to get up and run my business in the morning about the same time he was going to bed. He was just like a child!
I was very upset and thought we should get a divorce. However, I was struggling to cope because of my baby. I became depressed and used to cry in the bathroom. I never talked about my problems with anyone since I wanted to save face. So I kept everything to myself.
One day, my mother-in-law gave me a copy of the book Zhuan Falun. I felt Master Li knew so many things. Other Falun Dafa practitioners encouraged me to follow the spiritual practice. I gradually started studying the Fa and following the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance. My attitude, and the attitude of all those around me, then started improving.
In those days, my husband was stubborn, apathetic, and had a lot of pride even though he felt inferior. He was full of negative energy! In my mind, he was useless. His weight ballooned to 200 pounds. He tried to avoid his responsibilities to his family.
Master Li said,
“...The mind empties and kind thoughts arise...”(“Entering a Sacred State of Mind,” HongYin III)
I knew everything that happened to me was for a reason. I was not scared and didn’t complain.
We had our own business, but my husband didn’t work on the weekends. Every evening, he either played mahjong or watched videos on his cell phone. He woke up around noon, then shouted at anyone who didn’t do what he asked. He also ordered me to cook fried rice for him every day. I had done so before but with a resentful attitude.
I remembered Master said,
“…[During a conflict, if you can remember:]‘He's right,And I'm wrong…’What’s to dispute?”(“Who's Right, Who's Wrong,” Hong Yin III)
I treated him well based on Dafa’s principles. My mother could not understand why, and said, “You guys will eventually divorce if nothing changes.” I replied, “Wait and see if that happens!”
My husband played mahjong late into the night. So I sent him messages and reminded him not to play too late and to take care of himself. I also did not keep checking where he was like I did before. I fully trusted him and got rid of any suspicions. I used to look down on his friends, but I changed my attitude and treated them like they were my friends. We now have a very good relationship.
My showing compassion and consideration for others finally changed my husband. He acts responsibly and is very righteous now, which I never saw in him before. He has high moral standards. In some respects, I'm not as good as he is. He now spends time helping plan my business and has signed many contracts. His weight is back to normal, too.
Dafa has harmonized and saved our family. I appreciate Master and thank all the practitioners who helped me.