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My Husband Was Having an Affair

April 03, 2015 |   By a Dafa practitioner in China

(Minghui.org) I was illegally arrested and sent to a forced labor camp for two years because I remained steadfast in my belief in Falun Gong,

After I was sent to the labor camp, my husband became sick and had a fever. His mother became paralyzed and died before I was released.

When I was released two years later, I returned home to a filthy house filled with garbage. Even the clothing on the floor and the bed covers were filthy and dirty. I was just beginning to clean the mess up when I received a phone call.

The call was from a woman calling for my husband and the message she left was very dirty. While I cleaned the room I found some woman’s clothing. I was quite certain that he had an affair.

I could not accept the blow. My legs trembled and my heart was racing. I cried very hard and felt that my life was so bitter.

My husband wanted a divorce. I did not know what to do and so I studied the Fa.

Master said:

“Cultivation is something you do right in the thick of tribulations. They’ll test whether you can sever your emotions and desires, and they’ll see if you can take them lightly. If you’re attached to those things you won’t be able to finish your cultivation. Everything has its cause. Why can human beings be human? It’s exactly because humans have emotion. People just live for emotion. The affection among family members, the love between a man and woman, love for parents, feelings, friendships, doing things for friendship’s sake—no matter where you go you can’t get out of emotion. You want to do something, you don’t want to do something, you’re happy, you’re unhappy, you love something, you hate something—everything in society comes completely from emotion. If you don’t sever emotion, you won’t be able to cultivate. But if you do break out of emotion, nobody can affect you, and ordinary attachments won’t be able to sway you. What replaces it is compassion, which is more noble.” (Zhuan Falun )

I realized that I needed to get rid of my emotions. I was a Dafa disciple and I ought to think righteously. I needed to have compassion for my husband and should not divorce him. If I chose to get divorced, that would be walking on the path arranged by the old forces and it would also destroy my husband.

I began to think about the situation from his perspective. He had a hard life during the years I was persecuted in the forced labor camp. He had to work every day and also take care of his mother. He also needed to visit me. He endured a heavy mental burden and huge pressure due to the Chinese Communist Party's (CCP's) persecution.

Dafa dissolved my hatred and just like Master said in his poem:

One Thought

Secular and sacred, one creek apartForward or back: two different realmsEnter the temple in the woodsOne step and you’ve reached heavenHong Yin(III)

I put my anger and hurt feelings aside, and treated my husband as nicely as I could. He gradually returned to me. He ended his affair and became supportive of my practicing Falun Gong.

I met the woman who had the affair with my husband several years later.I greeted her first and then I told her the facts about Falun Gong and helped her to quit the CCP organizations.

When I thought about it later, I realized that I did not have any hatred towards her, it was as though nothing had happened. I only wished the best for her. I realized I was able to handle the situation well because I'm a practitioner and I follow the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion- Forbearance.