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Practicing Falun Gong Resolved My Family Conflicts

July 08, 2010 |   By a practitioner from Tianjin

(Clearwisdom.net) I'm 71 years old this year. I'm a rural woman and I've always had a kind heart, but I also had a bad temper and often got angry. I started to practice Falun Gong at the beginning of 1998. Before practicing, I had many health problems such as heart disease and high blood pressure. Every day, I had to take a handful of pills. I lived in great pain and nearly lost the courage to live.

One day I went to my sister-in-law's home. Seeing my obvious pain, she talked to me about Falun Gong, saying that Falun Gong is a qigong practice from the Buddha School and cultivates both mind and body, that practitioners conduct themselves according to Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance, and that Falun Gong has miraculous effects in healing and uplifting morality. Upon hearing this, I said I wished to practice Falun Gong. My sister-in-law played the video of Master's teaching, and also presented me with the precious book, Zhuan Falun. After I returned home, I found a local practice site and I've walked on the path of cultivation ever since. My health became better and better, and I stopped having to take all those medicines. Falun Gong really is miraculous!

I follow Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance, I value virtue, and I'm a better person who no longer fights for fame and self-interest or competes with others. I understand that we cultivators don't have any enemies and have good relationships with everyone. In the past, I had conflicts with the children of my current husband. For many years we avoided contacting each other. Whenever we got together, we didn't speak to each other and it was as though we were personal enemies. Through studying the Fa I know that Master teaches us to look within whenever we face conflicts. Therefore, I thought, "There must be something I did wrong to cause this tension." I adjusted my attitude and thought of my husband's children with compassion; didn't they have a predestined relationship with me to be saved? The tensions and conflicts were soon resolved and my husband was very happy. The whole family became harmonious.

My first husband passed away when I was in my 50s. I then married into my current family. My current husband has three sons and two daughters; I have two sons and one daughter. With so many children in one family, there are many opportunities for conflicts even if the children have the same parents in common. My husband's children would not speak to me even when they encountered me face-to-face. Before I became a practitioner, I tried to solve the problem, but everything I tried failed and even caused the conflicts to become more serious. I always had a high opinion of myself. Facing this situation, I felt very pained and was still suffering from illnesses.

After practicing Falun Dafa, I understood many questions. I discipline myself with Truthfulness, Compassion and Forbearance, and no longer argue with others. Master told us to look within whenever we encounter conflicts. I believe that Dafa will resolve everything. Therefore, I became considerate of both sets of children in daily life, whether they are my blood relatives or not. It was because of a predestined relationship that we got together in this lifetime; I need to treat them with compassion. Once my husband's son didn't have enough money to build a house, and he asked for help from his father. However, I manage the money in our family. As soon as I learned of this matter, I immediately took out 5,000 yuan. Knowing the previous tense relationship between the son and myself, my husband didn't think that the matter would go so smoothly. Seeing their appreciation and surprised expressions, I thanked Master with all my heart for spreading such a good Dafa to us. My changed attitude towards my stepson resolved the conflicts that had existed for so many years in my family.

After a long time, my stepson finally repaid the money. Remembering that Master told us to consider others first, I thought he must need money very badly, because he had to spend so much on the house and had to live frugally to repay the debt. Thus, when it was nearly the New Year, I brought 1,000 yuan to his home, telling him, "It's nearly the Chinese New Year. You may use the money to buy some New Year goods so your children can have a nice New Year." My stepson and his wife were very moved. I told them that it was because I studied Dafa and that Master Li taught us to be compassionate and kind. This is how they learned how wonderful Dafa is. Later, when the evil communist regime persecuted Falun Gong, they all supported Dafa.

Indeed, if I didn't practice Falun Gong, I couldn't have been so kind. I would have said, "Oh, you couldn't say anything to me when you saw me before. Today you want to borrow money from your father, but I control the money. There is no way I'll let you borrow it!" If I had acted this way, the conflicts would have become worse and endless.

My husband and I live with the youngest son. Before I practiced cultivation, I had some small conflicts with his wife. We both refused to compromise. After I practiced cultivation, I started to change. In the beginning, I just forbore it and avoided confrontations so there would be no conflicts between her and me, but in my heart I was unhappy. One day, I encountered her mother outside our home. Her mother pointed at me and called me names, accusing me. I didn't say a word. Overhearing her abuse, the neighbors secretly said, "What's going on? That woman never patiently withstood that kind of slander before." Later on, my son told his wife's mother, "My mother practices Falun Gong and she's greatly changed and become very kind. Otherwise, there would have been a big fight." Afterwards, I had a good relationship with her.

Soon after this, my daughter-in-law had her second baby. I didn't want to take care of the baby at first because I was almost 70 years old and I also needed to take care of my husband. I already did many chores every day. However, I realized that my daughter-in-law went out to work for the family and it was not easy for her. I should be considerate of others, so I started to take care of my granddaughter. I was busy from morning till night. The young people said they didn't have the stamina or energy to keep up with me. Everyone said that this old woman was so miraculous and that Falun Gong is really miraculous. My daughter-in-law became very considerate of me and showed me filial obedience.

Fellow practitioners clarified the truth to my son when he did business. He at once said, "Falun Gong is good. I know it. My mom is almost 70 years old, but she still helps us take care of the baby and prepare meals. If my mom didn't practice Falun Gong, we would have to take care of her instead and would probably spend a lot on her medical expenses. Falun Gong is very good. My mom is very righteous and diligently practices Falun Gong."