(Clearwisdom.net) It took me half a year to comprehend what Master said:
"Actually, though, as a Dafa disciple, if in such cases your thoughts are righteous, and what you are thinking about is cultivation, about being responsible, and about how it's something that should be done well, then you should quietly take whatever it is that you feel is lacking and do it well. That is in fact how a Dafa disciple should handle it. If all Dafa disciples could manage to handle things in this manner, everything out there would go extremely well, for sure." ("Be More Diligent")
When a colleague took sick leave, two others voluntarily took over her tasks. As a team leader, I told them, "Let me know if you are too busy to cover it, and I will help." After some days, they began to complain that I gave them unreasonable assignments. I did not argue with them, but I felt hurt. They voluntarily took over the work because of their friendship and their own interests. They blamed me because they were tired and did not want to continue, but were too embarrassed to take back what they said.
I came to the realization that when there is a conflict, I should not get stuck arguing over who was superficially right or wrong or try to change others, and wonder what I should do. Master's words came to my mind,
"...what you are thinking about is cultivation, about being responsible, and about how it's something that should be done well..." ("Be More Diligent")
It was like a light that was turned on in my head, I understood what I should do. Instead of being attached to who was right or wrong, I should not argue with them to validate or defend myself. I should remember that as a practitioner, I should look within, detach from unjust thinking and looking down on others, which is my duty as a team leader. As soon as my mind changed, my heart became clear and light. I began to work on her task and felt the incident never touched my heart. I realized that I should no longer pay attention to their words and manners towards me.
Practitioners may consider this ordinary, but it is a huge improvement for me. I used to be very worried about others' opinions of me. I used to hold a grudge against someone forever if I knew he had badmouthed me behind my back.
My heart changed after this incident. I used to concentrate on how I should correctly do things. I now pay more attention to "what the whole needs me to do." The difference is that I used to only do what I thought was right. If I thought that I was right, I did not accept others' "wrong" actions and tried to change them. As a result, I fell into constant arguments with my colleagues and fellow practitioners. I am now concerned with the needs of the whole. To get the work done well, I do what needs to be done. I will quietly do what I feel is lacking.
Looking back at my past behavior, I cannot help but chuckle a little bit. When I concentrated only on myself, it was like "digging into a bull's horn" (Zhuan Falun). I brought hardship onto myself, and it was done so foolishly. By changing this mindset, we can cooperate well with no conflicts while validating the Fa. The "right" that I was attached to is wrong, and I was wrong from the Fa's perspective. I will do better.
This is the understanding at my current level.